Lonesome and family problems

[Sadmans]

I feel so lonely every day whenever i go out and do something i feel insecure (sometimes). Upto now every time i tried to get into a relationship it was unsuccessful. I don't even have the guts to talk to a girl or flirt. To top that off i have so many family problems and financial problems. Everything I've worked for hasn't paid off. Music won't help. I feel like i would die a poor lonely broken failure. I don't see solutions for any of my problems

[Sober2007]

I have had a lot of these same thoughts and feelings at times, and I wish I could give you a magic formula to make things better. My suggestion is that you try to focus on recovery and give yourself a bit of a break on some of the other challenges you face. Try not to be so hard on yourself. I know that's easier said than done. And when it comes to feeling lonely, you have all of the people here now!

[Sadmans in reply to Sober2007]

Thanku very much 🌝

[Tigrlily]

I have these feelings too. I feel like my depression and anxiety have affected my relationships in the past and I'm afraid to get close to anyone for fear of rejection...that once someone gets to know me I'll seem like too much of a basket case due to my insecurity and shame. I have financial issues too but I'm working toward solving them. Alot of people do, I think when we see people with really nice cars or homes we think they have it together but that's not always the case. Appearances are deceiving. I think those with depression and/or anxiety assume more responsibility for themselves than those who don't. We are too hard on ourselves. We need to have self-compassion and forgive ourselves for mistakes or perceived weaknesses. Be gentle with yourself.

[Sadmans in reply to Tigrlily]

Thank you very much 🌝

[froggymom88]

Sadman try not to focus on too many things at once because it can be overwhelming. Work on one problem at a time. If you need help, professional, friends or family, be sure to seek it. Often we need others to encourage us and give a different perspective. After you resolve some of the issues , you will be in a better place to start a relationship. Be kind to yourself and remember that change takes time.