Anxiety du jour

[Kat63]

Now it’s 6 days until I move back in with my boyfriend, and I’m anxious about that. What if it doesn’t work out? What if it turns out to be terrible?

But if I don’t try my best to work things out with him and do my part, I’ll regret it for the rest of my life. We’ve known each other for 17 years. We lived together very happily for 10 years; then 4 years ago, we had some problems and I moved out. Now we have agreed to try again, and I’m moving back.

I’m also presently unemployed - I lost my job 7 weeks ago. I have been getting phone calls and emails about jobs, so hopefully I will find a job soon. But job hunting has been very stressful, and starting a new job will be stressful.

I’m just scared of everything right now. I hate this anxiety I’m feeling; I really do. Breathing techniques and meditation only work a little bit, when I’m in a panic attack. The underlying anxiety probably won’t go away until the problems do. I want to have a job again, and I want to know for sure whether or not things will work out with my bf. And those resolutions are not coming fast. Living in uncertainty is shredding my nerves. I’m afraid I’ll have a nervous breakdown.

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Hi Kat.

What you say about the fears and panicks not going away until the problem is resolved resonates with me ..it’s so much more difficult to use the tools we have, when the problems are overwhelming us..one thing I know is that for me it does subside somewhat, it can only go so far..and it has to..but getting there is exhausting...

I remind myself that making myself ill over things will make it worse..and I have no control over what will happen with some things....don’t get me wrong , I still worry and get very anxious, but it gives me some hours of peace..I don’t allow everything to stop for days on end now...while I ruminate over what might be.....and more than likely what won’t be....I’ve wasted days, months years worrying about what might be..😩 the thoughts are always so much more awful too....

And at the end of it you will get a job and it will work out ok..and if by chance it doesn’t you will cope with it, as you have before...

We are so much stronger than we give ourselves credit for...

I’m glad we can come along here and say how we feel, it sure helps...

I’m grateful to get my worries out there, then let them go for a bit...not always easy I know...

I wish you well in your new venture with your BF , you certainly both know each other and have every great chance of it all being ok...

🌺🌺🌺🌺❤️❤️❤️❤️ xxxx

[purl1]

Hi Kat, I'm sorry your going through all of this. I know I have to find a job at some point but it's too much for me to think about right now. I kind of think thats where my anxiety is coming from but i'm not sure. as far as your boyfriend you won't know until you are there. your both willing to try so that's saying something. one step at a time. I know easier said than done but for people like us thats how it has to be. just take a step back and breath everything is going to be ok.

[Starrlight]

I really understand the uncertainty. I am impatient to begin with and sometimes I can’t tell if it is just anxiety playing tricks making me worry for no reason or if I need to act or change something. I think if we can stay in the present it helps. I hope your relationship and job search work out well for you. I find that when I lay back and chill and enjoy things life is okay and my worries usually turn out to be way different than I imagine they will be.

[hypercat54]

What if the sky falls in? What if you cross the road tomorrow and get run over? What if you are diagnosed with a very serious illness and so on? You either try it or you don't and you have to decide which is worse, the current uncertainty or the regrets if you don't try.

Accept the uncertainty and just go from day to day without catastrophising what might or not might happen in the future as this is out of your control. We only have control over the present. x