How do I go about finding a counciler?

[SingingBirds]

I started seeing a counselor at the age of 10, and I venomously opposed the entire concept. Perhaps it was because I was forced or because I didn't want to share my innermost thoughts with a stranger. In that period I have only seen two different counselors, and I hated the first one. The second one was bearable, but just because she was so dang sweet. Many of the sessions would revolve around her taking and asking questions while I flat up refused to respond for the entire hour. Only very briefly did we even address the actual reason for me being in counseling and I was free. A year later depression flared up, and my adoptive parents threw me back at her. I never really addressed the depression with her, but I did utilize the moment to vent my anger (mostly about my adopted dad). Flash forward to the present, it's my doctor that now wants me to start seeing a counselor. I guess as someone who doesn't like confronting their feelings or as someone who dosesn't really believe in the effectiveness of counseling, how do I start seeing a counselor?

[hypercat54]

The best thing to do is see your doctor and get referred if you are in the UK. If you are in the USA I think you just refer yourself? To find a counsellor just go online or seek out recommendations.

The point of counselling is to face your demons and learn to deal with them otherwise nothing will change for you. Of course it's not an easy option, far from it as you have buried painful feelings for a reason, but if you don't deal with them you are compromising your future. Maybe you are not yet ready for it? x