Divorce via Text?

[BouncingSoul]

My husband of 25 years texted me yesterday morning right before I went to work to tell me that he met with a divorce attorney. I have spent my life with this man. We have 6 children--2 of them are under 18. I have been with my husband since I was 17. I do not understand. He has not told me why. We have plans for our future. We have way too many memories. I cannot think of a single thing that would warrant a divorce. I love this man more than anything. My entire life has been turned upside down.

[Quest4peace]

I’m very sorry for what you’re going through. What a horrible way for him to announce this to you. You’ve come to the right place, though. I wish you strength and courage as you move forward.

[Denalikidali]

I will pray for you and your family. You deserve to be treated with respect and what he did was disrespectful of you and your children. It sounds like he is having a midlife crisis. Unfortunately he is not being considerate of your feelings. I hope you can find the strength to get through this. You have raised 6 children, no mere fete girl!! I have five so I know. Reach out to your family for love and support. Im rooting for you! You can do this!

[Lazy_dog_lover]

First of all, what a weirdo. Have to actually spoken to him face to face, yet?

It sounds like a midlife crisis. Give him permission to go run wild and get it out of his system. Then ask about couples talk therapy. If he still feels that he wants it after 3-6 months, deal with it then.

[art62grammie]

Many people change with age. We need to be strong. I am 56 and went through a divorce which took a year. It began in June of 2017. It will be a year next month that it was final. It was tough but had to be done. We were married 15 years and together for 17 years total. Why your husband chose this I don't know. You seem distraught too. I was the one who told my husband over the phone we were getting a divorce. It was not a text. He was very evil and I had enough. He asked me to leave years before the divorce. I was packing when our teenage son said don't go, mom. We are older parents with a 15- year-old son. Greed got the best of my husband. His love for money cost our marriage. He watched me die with Anorexia. I have been Anorexic for forty years. Seventeen years with him. My Anorexia only got worse in the end. People told him that I was dying. He did nothing but left me there on the couch in November of 2012. He went to work and I almost did not make it that day. I had just enough breath in me to walk to the phone to ask the doctor for help. He was 46 years of age before he found a wife. I was his only wife and he has one son. That is our son. I lost my son during the divorce and still do not see him. He took his dad's side and it cuts right to the heart. I will not let this divorce cause me any more pain. I have recently recovered from my long battle with Anorexia and nothing will take that from me. I move forward day by day. I am stronger than I ever thought possible. Sure, I love my son and it hurts. I must let him go to save me. It is rough going through a divorce. I made it and am alive. It seems to be a shock for you. He out of the blue text you. My husband knew it was coming before it happened. No matter how rough the road gets. Keep on driving. Life is short. If he does not want to stay married. It maybe is time to let him go. I know your pain. Believe me. I loved my husband but he betrayed me. I trusted him and he proved it all wrong. Oh! I am thankful for my divorce and if I would have known he was evil and heartless man. I would have never looked at him 17 years earlier. I have no regrets. I had to save myself. Divorce is never easy. You hang in there and you deserve to be happy too. Whatever you do. Do not end up with nothing in the divorce settlement. You think of yourself too.