Thantaphobia

[Chappy12]

Hi does anyone on this forum suffer from thantaphobia...took me a lot of guts to write..it's fear of death...last year I had a massive health scare which I had untold tests..waiting for results made me anxious and sleepless..I was so frightened I stopped sleeping...I also had this when two of my children died twenty years ago...last year two family members died in the summer and the fear gradually got worse...my sleep is back but I will still have this fear now and again especially when going to bed..it's such a relief to speak about it..it creeps up when my life is going good again..I've gotten over panic attacks agrophobia and the fear of being left alone this past year...it took a long time..so why is this fear still hanging around.a real hard one.not often spoken about ..I have OCD..so ruminating on negative memories sometimes happens which triggers the fear again ,,love to all.thanks for reading 💕💕💕💕

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[Hidden]

I do when my anxiety is at its very worst, I wouldn't wish them thoughts on my worst enemy, looking at your life story. I'm not surprised you have these thoughts, because You've had it very hard. I don't even know what to say because I would probably never recover from what you have, much less have a fear of death

[Chappy12 in reply to Hidden]

Hi when I had CBT..the therapist said he was not surprised this was one of my worst fears as my first son died in his sleep..two years later my third son died from breathing difficulties..CBT really helped but when ever I hit another crisis my fear comes back...this time I was frightened I would die ..because I didn't know what was happening with my body

..hopefully it will ease again..thank you for replying..we think we're alone and were not 💕💕💕

[Hidden in reply to Chappy12]

Do you have anything that you can take when these thoughts strike you ? For an emergency ? Im guessing this might be something that will not you with a sledge hammer when you are facing stressful situations

[Chappy12 in reply to Hidden]

No I m very sensitive to meds..I've had councilling creative art therapy and CBT which really helped..I also write a lot...I'm also post Meno ten yrs which hasn't helped and I'm only 52...xxx

[Jeff1943]

It's good that you have recovered from having panic attacks and agoraphobia but there is some residual sensitivity which is behind your fear of death. It's quite normal to be concerned about not dying before our time but when we experience anxiety disorder and oversensitive nerves that concern becomes exaggerated many times into fear of death. This maybe is what happened to you.

This is only a mind game our nervous system plays on us, you are in no danger and certainly not likely to die as anybody else. So set your mind at rest, simply accept this strange idea for the moment knowing it is just a magnified thought and eventually it will resolve itself.

[Chappy12 in reply to Jeff1943]

Thank you..you are right when you say their is some residual sensitivity...I think I think like this in times of crisis...my son who is 28his lung collapsed before Christmas..he is ok now and with the bereavements no wonder this fear pops up..my daughter is autistic and has tourettes .so I do have an overwhelming sense of responsibility for her as well..diamond she is 💕💕💕 thank you for replying xxx

[Chappy12 in reply to Chappy12]

Looking at excatly what has happened to me..losing two children.then my other son's lung collapsing..two more bereavements in last 8 mths and my own health issues..I am actually not surprised I have this fear again..thank you both for a sudden realisation..when I wrote this and looked at it ..I thought wow I've been through a lot .thank you again so much xxx

[Hidden]

You have had some very extreme traumatic life altering times, very difficult. About death, none of us can escape death. Just try your best to take care of yourself and when it is our time, it just is.