Are these feelings normal?

[BrettS119]

Ok so I was diagnosed with depression a while ago. I believe I have made significant improvements to get better. However, I spend a lot of time daydreaming, and I sometimes feel like I'm going nowhere in life. I dwell on the things I don't do instead of where I can improve. I'm about to turn 20 years old and I still don't have a damn thing figured out. I know it's normal to not have things in order, but I still feel like I'm not doing enough to get to where I need to be.

[dore13]

When I was your age, I did the same thing. I lost myself in daydreams because I guess it was coping skill to live through the pain and suffering. The problem, you can lose years daydreaming, and I would hate that to happen to you. I was misdiagnosed, so I lost a lot of years trying to treat what I couldn't treat! Then, very recently, I found out I had ADHD, and when I started taking something to focus, the daydreaming stopped, and started thinking, and learning, and then working! People think if you have ADD or ADHD you are super hyper, but there is another kind, where you zone out, can't focus, and daydream a lot. It is something to look into. I wish you luck!

[BrettS119 in reply to dore13]

Thank you. I am also taking meds for ADHD

[pink83737]

I know how you feel Brett.

[ChicagoGirl1961]

Well, the majority of people here are older than 20, and as you can tell if you read the posts that most us may not have a damn thing figured out. At 20 you're not supposed to know what the hell is going on, don't be hard on yourself. LIVE your life! Enjoy your youth and appreciate it while you can! Be well.

[amandagray]

im 20 too and im right there with you

[jesca18]

I turn 30 next week and I still haven’t found my way.

You sound like a very determined and motivated individual; you’ll be just fine! (:

[Avidreader9559]

At 20, I didn't have much planned out. A lot of what I thought would happen in my life didn't. That is okay. Life happens. I would suggest that you try different things. Maybe a college class that you are interested in. Maybe a class at a technical school. Try to find a hobby you enjoy and where you can meet people with similar interests. Maybe finding a job in an area where you would like to learn some aspect of the business. Learning more about yourself can help to clarify your interests and what you would like to do going forward. Try to focus on the positive instead of the negative. I had to learn to stop my negative thoughts because I was constantly tearing myself down. When I would catch it, I would say "Well, I might not be doing _______, but I am trying this or growing this area, or I am not long doing this anymore." I would point out my progress to myself, and maybe that could be helpful for you. I hope you find what you need so that you can see the progress that you are making. Hugs!