Purpose

[SparkofLife]

I feel like I need a hobby or to set goals. My husband has so many goals and I'm proud of him. I feel like it gives me a sense of purpose when I have goals. I'm lost. I can't find anything I'm passionate about. I use to be goal oriented. I always had 2 or 3 things I was trying to do. This was before depression and anxiety came into play. Now most days I feel like "what's the point?"

I hate feeling this way. I feel selfish. I have a good family and lots I should be happy about. Yet I feel like this.

[Tech4hokies]

Hi spark of life,

Sorry you are struggling, I can relate to the way you feel. First thing is, stop beating yourself up, enough people will do that in life. I have recently started therapy for my problems. But one thing I have learned is I have to focus just on today, yesterday is gone and tomorrow isn't here yet. I like to build puzzles. Arthritis in hands make it hard to do a lot of craft things. Walking around an antique store is fun, they are like a time capsule and takes you back to memories of the good ole days. I also play games on my phone. Maybe start with one task a day. And then reward yourself when you do. I do a lot of patting myself on the back for the little stuff. Try to start each day thinking about things you are thankful for, someone's this helps us realize that while our situation really sucks, there are some positives. It helps to build positive thoughts which will slowly help the depression. Hope this helps, holler at me anytime!! 🙂🤗

Darla-VA

[dore13]

Setting goals can be a great thing for anyone. The trick is, if you do not complete a goal, don't beat yourself up over it! I have a set routine, I get up, work out, work on some math classes (I need to get to higher math level because of a certification I want!), then I stop for a while, then do some walking, and back to the math, and then enjoy my evening. I know this sound very boring, (LOL!) but setting a routine keeps me busy, and helps me not get depressed. The only problem I have, is when I have a doctors appointment or something comes up, I get annoyed I can't follow my routine because then I feel like I am not accomplishing anything. It's silly, I know. I find that helps me ,for the most part, to deal with my problems. I wish you luck!

[AZ1970]

When I was struggling I set goals. But they were small. I practiced for a month before adding another. One goal I had was to eat a piece of fruit each day. Another was to stretch every day. I didn’t have to be perfect. Just try. Is there something small you can set for yourself?

[Hidden]

I could have written this. Thank you for sharing....I don’t feel so alone. I feel like I haven’t set and met a goal for the last 8 years. Ever since anxiety reared it’s ugly head.

[justanote]

I can understand what you're going through. My struggle with anxiety has developed into a sort of indifference (I'm not labeling it depression quite yet) and I have been struggling with motivation. Yet, I believe that God gives us these times to regroup and rediscover ourselves. It is truly difficult to feel like you have no purpose, but perhaps your purpose is to wait. Give yourself time to work through the issues that have surfaced in your life. Journal, reflect and pray for healing in those areas. Then make plans to move forward, one step at a time. Create a short list of small goals that seem attainable. You can always increase your expectations as you start feeling better about life. I'm praying that you will see the value in today.