Purpose

[selew17]

I’m new here and have struggled with anxiety for as long as I can remember. I’ve also had depression on and off for awhile as well. 3 weeks ago I had surgery on my foot and ankle which has rendered me absolutely useless at home. And I’m feeling the depression creeping back up. I’m also somewhat of a newlywed (been married for a year and a couple months) so my husband has to do EVERYTHING for me. Rather than making me feel like he loves me, it makes me feel like I’m bringing nothing into our marriage anymore. I feel worthless to the point that I don’t even want to get out of bed anymore. I know this is temporary, but how can I make myself feel like I have a purpose, a reason for waking up again?

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You do it for you!!! You're the most important in your life...take time to heal! Best of luck for you! Hugs!!! XXX

[Fishmonster]

Look in the mirror and see the most important and special person in the world

Even though it’s hard but having purpose will help you feel better.

Do something for yourself then do something for your hubby. Surprise him even if it’s with something small. Find things to Make yourself feel great

No matter how dark it gets morning always comes

[Lyn842]

I can relate. I'm much older than you. Been married 50 yrs. I just had a hip replaced in April. It took 3 yrs for a Dr to correctly diagnose me. So for 3 yrs I felt useless. Yes, your situation will pass. Meanwhile praise the check out of him. Not just to him but to everyone so that he hears it. Men love to feel needed. Remind him that this is temporary. This is just one of the many things you will go thru in your married life. It seems with us it has been mostly me with health issues. Did my husband ever complain or get frustrated? Oh yes. Sometimes in my case I could remind him who did all the housework for many years. Just like us women complain after yrs of doing boring things they do too. What I found hard was that even though he was doing things, he didn't do them as I would! Boy did I have to bite my tongue. I would look around and see all the things I wanted to do but couldn't. I was depressed for sure. I'm slowly improving and doing small things but my stamina is very weak. So remember, praise him multiple times and thank him even for the smallest thing he does for you.

[selew17 in reply to Lyn842]

Thanks so much! I completely get your frustration when your husband doesn’t do things the way you did. My husband has shrunk many of my shirts in the dryer in these 3 short weeks! He doesn’t complain to me but I can see the stress and exhaustion in his face and hear him muttering to himself when he thinks I’m out of earshot. I’ll have the ramp up his praises!

[Ann10]

I'm sorry to hear that you had surgery and that you have a long recovery period. It is frustrating when you want to do things and you can't yet. I can relate because I have back problems and my husband has to do a lot of things around the house that I used to do. Staying in bed is bad for you because your muscles get very weak if you don't use them. I hope you can find a hobby that you can do while you recover to make you feel more satisfied with your days. You could start a journal, draw or be creative. Hope you heal quickly.