how do i deal with grief?

[adrib2332]

i lost someone very close to me about a year and a half ago. but recently i cant stop thinking about him and it breaks my heart. i don't know what to do anymore. and so i need help with how to deal with it. whenever i try to talk to my parents it's like they brush it off and act like its nothing.

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dear adrib,you grieving for some one you love,i carnt tell you when it will all stop,you could

well be thinking about him for the fest of your life.its a thing called love,your not alone,every body does the same,be proud of your grieving .it will get a little less as times

goes by.

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Hi adrib2332

I'm so sorry to hear that you lost someone very special to you. Having been in your position, I understand how that feels and many others do too.

The emotions of grief are overwhelming and confronting. That's what you are feeling now. Sometimes the people around us would prefer not to 'go there' because they too find the whole idea of grief and emotional distress way too challenging. As a society we don't talk about such things, so it's no wonder that so many people don't know what to say or do when another person is grieving. It can make grieving very lonely at times. But not if you find someone who you can share your feelings with.

I found a grief counsellor fairly early on for all the reasons above. And it definitely helped me. Psychologists can also help, but perhaps start with a community-based counselling service. It also helps to read as much as you can about the grieving process and what helps.

A few small things helped me along the way and still do, including: standing under the stars and connecting to that person in your own way; buying a candle and lighting it just for them (or others who have passed), writing a letter/note to them, tying it to a helium balloon and letting it go somewhere special.

But most of all be gentle with yourself and your grief. Know that it is a journey, not something that we 'get over'. Reach out for the right support from trusted friends and professionals. And when the worst of the grief fades (as it will eventually) I promise you that the memories will produce more smiles than tears.

Go gently.

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So sorry for the grief that you are feeling. You mentioned talking to your parents, have you tried talking to the guidance counselor at school? They may be able to help you as well. Perhaps you could ask your parents about seeing a counselor?

After I lost my brother in law a year and a half ago, I spoke with a counselor for several months. Sometimes, the grief is as fresh as it was at the hospital. Things come as subtle reminders that he is not there anymore. Even in the grief, I have great comfort knowing that my brother is in heaven and I will see him again someday. Hope that helps.