Hi, new here. I have struggled with anxiety on and off for most of my life. I have never sought out help from any kind of support group before, because before now, I was either too anxious to put myself out there, or I was denying that I had a problem.
I have had some periods of my life where I think I actually had very little anxiety, but right now I am actually starting to pull myself out of what was probably the worst period of social anxiety I have ever had.
I have read How to Be Yourself by Ellen Hendriksen (twice, actually), and it really helped me. My main take aways from it were:
1) everyone who is not a sociopath has some level of anxiety, feeling anxiety is normal and okay
2) the part of my brain that is telling me that talking to other people is going to result in certain death is probably overreacting, and I can choose not to listen to it.
The thing is, I actually got to the point recently where I was able to interview for a better job and do REALLY WELL. Like, I sounded smart and stuff, didn't do anything self sabotaging and generally said and did just the right combination of things that resulted in me actually getting the job.
So now, it's not that I'm not happy about it, but I also feel like I now have a whole new set of things to worry about. The level of anxiousness that anyone would have had leading up to the job interview didn't go away. This probably was not helped by the fact that when offering me the job, my employer stressed to me that making mistakes in this position could result in legal liability for the company and that he had already had to fire two other people from this position in the last six months.
The job also involves working with customers. I think that part of it will be good for me though, and that isn't really the part I am worried about most. It's more the legal liability/one mistake and I could lose my job and be worse off than before thing.