Hi !

[Cocoon3]

Just wanted to gv a lil update on my probs.

I’m doing the Toughlove deal with my daughter it’s hard but I am . I did find out factual that for quite a few years she has cried to me at the same time or same day she would go to her fathers house and they would be in agreement & pow-wows and actually in laughter of how stupid & naive I was. So I let her know that I knew she had been playing me a lot of times for a full and manipulating but regardless that I loved her and always will and I know that I gave 110% of being a good mother to her and I know one day she’ll realize that but right now .. wow, my heart hurts. Just by those little facts you can tell it’s hard but especially if you knew the 17 years struggle I have battled against her father, who is proud to call himself the “king of narcissist. For her entire life I have been the one who worked long hours , who supplied health insurance ,who supplied school uniforms, supplies, field trip’s,doctor visits , surgeries ,ER visits, respiratory therapy, basketball ,gymnastics ,softball ,parent teacher conference , began savings account ,opened up an IRA , help get her first job ,stayed up at night studying with her, bought graduation items, ring, gave money for a big down payment for the car she’s driving , dentist, eye glasses, clothes, birthday parties sleepovers proms, compliments, no belittling . But Ok !

[Eowyn7]

How old is your daughter? If she is 17 then she still has some growing up to do. It could get better. I did not have a great relationship with my parents as a teenager but I do now (27).

[Cocoon3 in reply to Eowyn7]

She’s about to turn 20

[thedoulamom]

I'm sorry you're going through such a hard time with your daughter. My parents are in a similar situation with my youngest sister between them and her bio grandparents (she's adopted). It's always hard when the people we love don't appreciate us and turn on us. Your daughter sounds very emotionally immature (like my sister), especially with the influence of her father and his narcissism. I know your daughter is a bit older than my sister, but this is an article my mom said helped her change her perspective when dealing with my sister and her issues. bit.ly/2RuZOYf

I hope things get better!

[Cocoon3 in reply to thedoulamom]

Thank you for taking time out to share your family story I will read that article/link thank you so much 😊😘