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What Do You Do When You Can't Tell Anyone What You Found Out?

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I can't talk to anyone I know, because of the pure embarrassment and shock of the situation, concerning someone I know. And I don't have a therapist. Where do I turn? I cannot keep this to myself. I need to talk about it to.someone.

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jkl5500

I'll listen if you'd like to talk about it.

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Downandout123 in reply to jkl5500

Thank you SO much, but what I did was just call a therapist. I told him that i have no insurance, and it would only be for one or more sessions. He is seeing me at 8:00 tonight, and his price is excellent.

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jkl5500 in reply to Downandout123

Good. Get this matter settled ASAP.

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Downandout123 in reply to jkl5500

Thank you

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B4andafter

After seeing the therapist, how are you doing? Feeling better? Just checking in to see if you are OK.

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Downandout123 in reply to B4andafter

Thank you so much. Not feeling any better because he could not put any closure to the situation. How could he if I did not know all the details myself? I mean, he told me what he THOUGHT it meant, but in no way could he give me a definitive answer. So I will NEVER KNOW and that's what kills me. I don't think I will go back to him. It's a lot of money for me, without having any insurance. :-(

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B4andafter

If you don't know all the details, is it possible you haven't gotten the whole story and what you do know is inaccurate especially if it came from a 3rd party? Having "some" but not all the facts could mean you are jumping to conclusions and it's distorting your thinking. If the situation involves domestic violence or sexual abuse of a minor it has to be reported to the authorities. It's hard to know how to respond to your situation without knowing what the situation is, but I respect your confidentiality. Is there someone you trust that you can talk to?

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Downandout123

NO-it definitely doesn't involve abuse of ANY kind. That I could not keep to myself!!. I could never sit in silence while someone else suffered. Plus, with my job, I am considered a mandated reporter. There is no third person involved in the situation. Only things that I found out online and something that happened nearly 10 years ago with this person. I did get an explanation both times from them, but I am not buying either one. There is NO ONE i can talk to about the situation. I do not want anyone to know about this, so therefore it had to be a complete stranger.

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B4andafter

If you still find yourself having a hard time dealing with the situation, do you think it would be beneficial if you spoke to this person again and let them know your concerns? Also, is what you found out online true? If it came through a 3rd party it may not be true. People post all kinds of lies online. Even if it came directly from the individual you are referring to, it still may not be true.

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Downandout123 in reply to B4andafter

Hi B4andafter,

I did speak to the person involved. I got told an explanation which I don't know if I believe. What I found online was true definitely, but there weren't any details. It's difficult to explain without revealing too much.

Hi Downandout123,

I can listen and advise something in private if you want me to

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Downandout123

Thank you but it's way too personal, and I realize that without knowing what REALLY HAPPENED, there will never be any closure. I just have to keep it out of my mind. I'm dwelling on something I will NEVER find out the truth to. :-(

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porcupyne

You need to feel safe when sharing secrets

Unless someone is getting hurt by your secret. Privacy is no 1

I feel safe on this site myself but

I’m not you. Feel free to lay it on me

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Downandout123 in reply to porcupyne

Thank you so much! I went to a therapist for just one time. He helped me, although I still.don't know what the truth is behind what I found out, I simply put it in my past and moved on, and I'm not obsessing about it anymore!! 😊

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