Help me

[Lulu02]

I don’t know if I’m about to make the most stupid or best decision of my life or if someone needs to stop me.

This ex boyfriend I’ve been rambling on about for weeks, I’m going to cut him out of my life. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO. Like I’m might cry about him all the time. And do I have the self control to block him so my curiosity doesn’t take over. But again I want to see how his life is progressing.

He called me today and told me he found this girl, (that he was talking to when we were dating as friends) he told me how beautiful and pretty she was, that hurt...

I’m scared of the unknown 😓

[AZ1970]

I think you do know what to do. You are just afraid to do it. Is being in contact with him going to make your life richer? Is it going to help your mental health? Or will it feed your anxiety and lower your self esteem? You've got this. Take care of yourself.

[alvoltaris]

Sorry to hear that anyway, I understand how the feeling is when someone left. You miss the memories and everything reminds you of him. So the first thing you have to do is stop seeing those memories for a while (photos, letters, your songs, coffee shop etc). Try some new activities that you’ve never done before. Glad that you’re here so we could help you somewhat.

[Concernedparent23]

It’s similar in some ways to a bereavement when you lose someone from your life. You have lost the future you thought you had together.

A funeral is obviously part of the process of saying good bye to someone who died, but (unless there is a marriage and divorce) we don’t have a similar formal ritual or ceremony for a relationship that ends.

Create your own when you’re ready. Have a good cry, and say good bye to that future, it no longer exists and may not have played out the way you imagined anyway. Let it go.

And then move on.

Life is a gift, go and live it x

[rtscd8]

You're much stronger than you might think you are. I think we know deep down when something is causing us negativity and keeping us from living the life we're called to. If that's you as a result of this person, then you probably know the right decision. I know when I'm distracted, I'm not focused on being the person God created me to be. I'm not investing in my family or my husband and I know that's not the life I'm supposed to lead. Praying for the same peace to you!