What do I do?

[D0119]

I have been involved with someone for a year and a half. I have major feelings and love for him...not to mention we work in the same place which I have never done before. He will not admit to feelings...always saying he doesn't do that. What does that mean? How do I know if he cares? Why do I constantly look at my phone to see if he has messaged me? We haven't talked since Monday night and my heart hurts. What should I do?

[Worried-help]

Hi, it's pretty tough when you feel like the person you are with doesn't return the same feelings you have for them. What exactly did you tell him before he said he doesn't admit how he feels?.

About not caring for you, I'm sure he does, you guys have been involved for the past year, if he didn't care he wouldn't be with you. And it's only Wednesday, you've just missed a day without talking that's not so bad.

[D0119 in reply to Worried-help]

I told him that I needed him to say something...anything....about his feelings towards me. I guess just to make myself feel like I haven't wasted a year? We have gone through this before with nothing being said. I guess I am being a stereotypical girl but I like knowing where I stand

[Worried-help in reply to D0119]

I totally agree with you wanting to know where you stand, specially after a year. He needs to be more mature and speak his mind and let you know what you can and can not expect from him. It's only fare. I don't understand why it's so hard to just open up to people and let them know what's happening so that no one ends up getting hurt. Are you a fling, could there be a more serious relationship in the future, does he just want to continue to go with the flow and see what happens, or does he have absolutely no idea what he wants, those are all things that he should be able to define after a year of being with someone. Sounds like you are in love with this guy but if he is not emotionally available for you maybe you should consider someone who can give you what you are looking for, unless you are willing to continue on with the way things are. But take it from someone who has been through something similar, worst thing is to wait for someone hoping that eventually they give you what you are looking for and it never happens.

[LivingOxymoron in reply to Worried-help]

I suggest giving him space and avoid him. Start looking for a new interest and don't let your emotions affect your job performance. It will make him realize what he is missing.

[ArtOfNoise]

Morning😊 You already know the answer.... He's not the one you need in your life especially if you're not getting what you need from this person.

I don't know you, and can't tell you what to do. I can say you deserve more and better! Take it step by step. It won't be easy. Ask yourself is he worthy of you.

[AZ1970]

His answer is in his silence. Move on. You deserve someone who loves with the same investment you have in the relationship. Don’t settle for less than that.

[D0119]

Thank you everyone!!!! My self esteem is crushed....and I have to find ways to get over this...Since I have anxiety and depression it is taking over my mind in every way 😢

[higherpurpose]

I'm sorry that your feelings are hurting. You have a reason to feel that way, and that is okay. It sucks that you feel for a person who does not want to commit to you. Maybe the best thing to do and just focus on yourself, your health, and your happiness. Unfortunately, you cannot force someone to feel for you the way you feel for them. Sending you love and prayers during this time. Take care.

[D0119 in reply to higherpurpose]

Thank you for your support and understanding. I needed to hear that I'm not completely crazy and wrong. I have avoided him but have to see him Monday for a work thing. Fingers crossed I hold it together 😊