Really sad

[Jozey17]

Going through a break up of 8 years. I am having a hard time letting go even though I know it’s real. I am fine one day and the next is extremely difficult. I still care about her and We share custody of our English bulldog. Somehow I am still hopeful that it may work out between us. I feel so lonely and sad.

[tamka38]

I hope u can give yourself some self care and if u can talk to her and let her know how u feeling. To make sure you both our on the same page. And if y’all can’t be in a relationship don’t beat yourself up. Try to get out your comfort zone. What u like doing for fun? Do u have any friends? This is the time u should be finding new things to do. Do u have a therapist? Are u on medication? Try not to beat yourself up please start writing down your good days when u happy so on the days that you’re depressed u can look back into your note and see the progress you’re making and start writing things down you’re grateful for. Am here if u want to talk or if u just want me to listen to you good luck

[Jozey17 in reply to tamka38]

I hve a therapist i see once a month. I am on sertraline 100mg. I have friends who I talk to on a daily basis. I am a home body and enjoy being home and watching tv and cooking. I don’t like going out much.

[tamka38 in reply to Jozey17]

Can u take short walks, and make a goal to leave your daily. It don’t have to be long just to get some fresh air. U should invite your friends to go somewhere with u. How long u been taking Sertraline 100mg ? I been taking 50 mg of Sertraline for 2 weeks and up it to 100mg a week ago have u notice a change

[Jozey17 in reply to tamka38]

I was taking 50mg for 11 months. Just recently went up to 100 mg in the past month. I don’t feel as sad my moods are definitely more stabilized. Its just the hard days of having shitty face to face days with her. Yes I am able to take short walks. I do go out to eat with one of my friends and its nice.

[tamka38 in reply to Jozey17]

That’s great progress, am happy that u able to do that. I been struck in my house for weeks and am praying my medication start working soon so I can get back to my life. Do Sertraline give u motivation and energy that’s my problem right now

[Jozey17 in reply to tamka38]

I don’t feel it gave me energy or motivation. I just wake up and go to work and take it one day at a time. Some days I am still sad but others i feel fine.

[viiexplorer]

Thank you for sharing, as it took guts to come here and to lay it out. It maybe a rollercoaster ride from here, but do give it time (days, weeks) to let things sort itself out. You need to heal and allow yourself to see things even more clearly.

[Jozey17 in reply to viiexplorer]

I feel like its a rollercoaster. I am trying to keep it civil between us since we share a dog. Today she told me to get my stuff from the garage or she would leave it outside. I just don’t understand why she is being so cruel.

[SirGrits]

Hey Jozey17 I too commend your courage to come here. I also agree that you shouldn't be too hard on yourself. Hang in there.

Control what you can control and try not to dwell on her choices. Which will be really hard, but weakening her effect on you over time will bring great benefit/healing.

[Jozey17 in reply to SirGrits]

Thank you so much. I feel like it will be easier over time.