Depression in my relationship

[srb1026]

I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half. I love him more than I can even put in to words. He struggles with depression and I am needing help figuring out how to handle this for him and myself. Does anyone have any advice for how to handle depression in a relationship?

[Hidden]

There is a lot of information regarding this on the internet. I have actually looked this up and printed it for my Dad.

It is important not to say anything like "You have to be stronger, it's in your mind" as this implies it is a choice. Sometimes I ask my Dad " So you think I woke up and decided to be miserably unhappy today?" If it were a choice, no one would choose this.

It is, in my opinion, just very important to be there. Even if he pushes you away...it may just be to see if you stay anyway.

Just search the web for 'dealing with someone who has depression.'

Good luck!

[srb1026 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much for your help! He's been struggling the last 4 months and I haven't gone anywhere so I hope he knows I'm not going anywhere. Its difficult because my family and friends don't understand depression or what all that comes with so its difficult to not have that support for our relationship.

[Hidden in reply to srb1026]

I deal with depression myself. It is terrifying to be be alone.

Sometimes we feel alone even when someone is there.

It is simply being at the mercy of your own thoughts and fears...your own mind.

[srb1026 in reply to Hidden]

Its heartbreaking to see him going through this. I wish there was something I could do to help other than just be patient...

[Hidden in reply to srb1026]

If you read through other posts here, you will see what I mean about feeling alone, even if someone is there...even in a house full of people.

It is a sense of isolation and uncontrollable sadness that comes from within.

I pushed my GF away, only later understanding I was isolating myself...and had no real desire to be alone.

Just be there.

[srb1026 in reply to Hidden]

I will do that. I greatly appreciate your help.

[butterfly2121]

Here is an article I found. My husband does not get my depression even though I have shared stuff like this with him. He is not a good support for me. The things in this article are what would help me most when I am depressed and I hope you will find them useful in helping your loved one.

psycom.net/helping-someone-...

Best of luck and sending you a hug. <3

[srb1026 in reply to butterfly2121]

Thank you so much for this!

[LovelySnow]

As someone who has dealt with depression, I think it's beautiful you are here and looking for support. One think I would suggest - though it seems like you know this already - make sure you are taking care of yourself in all this. It's awesome you want to be there for your boyfriend. Just don't forget that you need support, too! Best, best wishes!

[srb1026 in reply to LovelySnow]

I'm trying to find a balance between taking care of myself and doing what i need for him. A difficult balancing act but he is worth it.

[LovelySnow in reply to srb1026]

I'm sorry for such a late reply to this!

I hope your boyfriend is doing better and that you are both getting the care you need. 🌸