A “brief” update

[faulhallen]

Good morning everyone!

Let me start by saying that for a while I will probably not be reading as many posts and responding as I have in the past. It’s nothing personal and there’s nothing wrong specifically, my life just seems too hectic to dedicate the amount of time to doing so that I have been.

Everyone is absolutely and completely allowed to reach out to me directly and I will still check my messages but for a while I need to change what I do in my downtime. I will still try and create more inspirational and positive posts when I can. I love you all, you’ve all been great to me.

Time for the update....

So I’m now probably moving in January 🙄

My ex started her new job on the 29th if I haven’t said that publicly or not yet but learned that she won’t receive her first check as a nurse until her second pay period because they withhold the first two weeks of pay until you finish training. This means that not only am I not saving the amount of money I should be but she’s actually borrowing money from me to cover expenses she normally covered herself from her old job until the end of the month when she gets paid. Supposedly she will pay me back for the borrowed money and reimburse me for some of the bills for November but I seriously can’t express how much I doubt that will happen. On top of that, even if she does I can’t count on having money until December and then even if I find something right away it’ll be almost Christmas before I could probably move and I don’t think I could do that to my daughter and move out right before Christmas.

The good news is that short term at least me and my ex have been more civil. Her mother has eased up off of my back some at least but apparently she’s being worse than ever to my ex. Where that’s awful for my ex I just hope they aren’t fighting in front of my daughter again because for a while my ex mother in law didn’t seem to pay attention if she was around.

I talked to my daughter a bit yesterday morning about what the divorce means for her. She’s wanted a little brother or sister for a while now and made a comment about how she wished me and my ex would have another baby. I made sure she knew that would never happen and she said she means when mommy gets remarried. That stung a little because I don’t believe she knows I don’t want more kids but that was when I learned she seemed to believe that once I move out she will never see me again...

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I told her I planned to see her at least 3 days a week even if it wasn’t for very long and that I’d always be there for her. She seemed very happy about that.

Other than that I don’t believe there’s anything going on that feels worth sharing. I have my ups and downs still and that will continue indefinitely I’m sure. My children seem to be getting sick or the sudden change in weather is messing with them but it shouldn’t be anything too serious.

I hope everyone is doing well! 😃

[NCAQuilter]

Take your time. It's great to hear your ex is moving out. Will your children be going with her. Soon, you too, will be on your way!

Take care, and come back soon. We'll miss you!

[faulhallen in reply to NCAQuilter]

She says she is and has been saying that for a couple of months but it worries me because she doesn’t act like it. There’s so much in the house that needs cleaned or sold because there’s no way it could fit in an apartment and she just isn’t taking it seriously. Hopefully she starts acting like it soon.

I’ll miss you all to!

[faulhallen]

Thank you. I’ll still be around and checking messages but between everything going on in my life and things going wrong in my friends’ lives I don’t feel like I have the time to read as many posts as before. I’ll miss you all to I just need to address things first. Best of luck if we don’t talk much though!

[ge99]

Lots of stuff happening, you are a good dad, which is something precious. Your daughter sounds sweet, I hope she gets a new brother or sister from where ever that may be, but only if her Mom is happy too. You should not worry about money, you will have a great holiday, you are too concerned about other people to have anything less. I hope your move will make you very happy and your girlfriend too. change is good.