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[TamarajaneT]

Anxiety is taking over my life. Just going to the shop makes me feel like I'm dying. The thought of being alone sends me into a craze and does anyone else have moments of madness where no thought it controllable and ends up sending you paranoid in situations.? It's getting worse and it's hard to help myself without a push most of the time . I just want to feel normal again

[Spf1875]

I really do feel this but you must continue to do these things that make you uncomfortable to combat and overcome the situation

[TamarajaneT]

Thanks for replying. I do I have to because I have a 2 year old daughter. I'm just so tired and fed up of this constant feeling of worry. Weakens me

[Spf1875 in reply to TamarajaneT]

I have a 3 year old too and it does take it's toll especially when you feel crappy but just remember you have the strength of your little one by your side. You can do anything

[quitter333]

I tried combating my anxiety on mental level by asking not "why me" or "am I going mad" etc, but rather "why do I feel this about that" and then asking "what can I do". I could not find any situation where I could not solve problem with stepping up.

I had two major problems job and problem with my parents. With job I decided - noone is my king, and I can do whatever I want and say whatever I feel saying. And this thought made me stress about job almost non-existent. I do not fear "superiors" as they are often miserable people. I feel great about myself feeling this superiority.

I also had problems with parents - my mom was abusing alcohol when she quit job. I felt she is slipping further down the rabbit hole and we had few rows about it. Then I asked my questions and found my answer - I cannot change or control her. I let her go, but I can show her by example that person can be better. And I started being disciplined and stopped irking her about her problems and voila - she suddenly got better.

I hope you can apply this to your problems. Ask yourself - Do I genuinely care about this problem and imagine scenarios where you act completely different. Do not imagine what others could or could not say. Imagine they are neutral. If you were super bold, and people around you accepted you, would you still have the source of anxiety? likely no. So keep that thought and experiment with action.

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