Any experiences In Generalized Anxiety Disorder?

[Morphling]

Hello guys , I hope you are having a nice day. Recently I’m dealing with GAD and since then I feel that I don’t enjoy my life as I did before. Especially with my relationship and that bothers me a lot. My partner sees me and since I don’t have the energy I had before says that whether I still love her or want to stay in relationship or not. I don’t know what to do about this anxiety.

[Sleeplessme]

I feel you there. When I first started suffering with anxiety I was with the love of my life. I lost her due to pushing her away and I regret it deeply. Whatever you do, be open and honest with her, try your best to always explain to her what's happening, and don't blame her if she can't understand. It's never easy to understand mental health issues when you don't have any.Also, don't blame yourself if you struggle to have feelings for her, or anyone, or anything. Numbness is definitely a confusing part of mental health, but it can be controlled with help and understanding and needn't dictate your life for you.

[Morphling in reply to Sleeplessme]

Hello mate , I hope you are doing fine without any anxiety. Yes I’m kinda pushing her away because I don’t wanna hurt her and that gives me anxiety too. I just want to relax my mind cause I’m overthinking too much on my relationship. Numbness also bothers me cause she can see me not having any interests in relationship, I don’t know what to do If I know I will be like this for a long time I would leave the relationship cause I don’t wanna hurt her more. Did you feel your relationship gives you anxiety in that times ?

[Sleeplessme in reply to Morphling]

Absolutely yes, the relationship gave me plenty of anxiety. BUT... So did everything else. If you end the relationship the anxiety won't go away, if anything it will probably get worse as a result of regret.

If you're like me, it's not that you don't have the interest, it's just that you fear anything bad happening, so you take steps to avoid bad things having any chance of happening by doing.... nothing!

I think that makes sense. A simple example... a night out means the possibility of countless things going wrong, so, it's avoided, and you stay in instead. But that's no solution.

There is this current societal approach to everything these days which would argue my case and say that we are all responsible for everyone's feelings, which seems to be making everyone stressed and paranoid. However, one BIG thing I had to learn, from a session with my psychologist, and wish I had learned a lot sooner, is that unless I am an awful person, which I'm not, then I have NO reason to take responsibility for others feelings.

With that in mind, unless you are beating or abusing your girlfriend, which I'm sure you're not, then it's her choice to decide if she wants to stick with this guy who has a few issues to sort out. And you know what? I'm sure that somewhere along the journey she too will have issues she needs help with, and I'm sure you'll be there to help her too!

Just keep being honest. Don't ever push her away without telling her why. Explain how you're feeling. If she's any good she'll want to know and help out. I'm sure you'll feel a lot better being comforted by someone who cares than you would dealing with it in your own.

Honestly, I'd like nothing more than to have someone with me who cares about me!

[Morphling in reply to Sleeplessme]

Thank you so much for your insights that mean a lot for me. You are absolutely right and I feel this is the reason I’m struggling too much with negative thoughts… I hope you stay healthy and secure and be happy with the one who really cares about you. 😊

[Rick1on1 in reply to Morphling]

I can say from experience that having a partner in your corner helps with Anxiety and Depression. Even if the romance and chemistry is not real right now, it will if you deal your issues first. What are you doing to get better?

It may seem selfish to focus on yourself while in a relationship but your partner probably has more patience and empathy than you giver her credit for. What I found was that doing small things for my lady while trying to "tread murky waters", helped to get on a good path.

Does this help?

[Morphling in reply to Rick1on1]

Hello Rick1on1 , Thanks for your reply appreciate it. You’re right. She does help me but sometimes problem is that I can’t have the energy to give for relationship and causes some argues. I try to explain my condition to her and say it’s not her fault. I didn’t understand your last sentence though.I’m currently focusing on myself and trying to lower my anxiety and diminish the negative thoughts by doing different works to keep my mind busy.

[Rick1on1 in reply to Morphling]

What I meant by the last sentence is that although the relationship is not at the place it was or should be, when I can do something for her..however small, it showed my love for her. She is appreciative of that and it keeps the relationship going.

While I am struggling to get better, she is in my corner..cheering me on.

Are you on medication?

[Morphling in reply to Rick1on1]

Thanks for explanation, no currently I’m not using any medication and trying to do some meditation stuff to handle anxiety, is it gonna work without medication ? I don’t wanna get dependent mentally.

[Rick1on1 in reply to Morphling]

Meds help to ease you into the long-term management tools that will make living with your conditions easier.

Most of the meds are not addictive, so speak to your GP about a low-dose drug to start out with.

Good luck!

[Morphling in reply to Rick1on1]

Thanks man , For how much time do you think I should take meds ?

[Rick1on1 in reply to Morphling]

Anxiety and depression meds take about 6 weeks before becoming effective. You need to create a routine that reduces triggers for your condition. Once you have that routine, you could wean off the meds.

Dont be in a hurry though as it is very easy to backslide.

hope this helps?

[Morphling in reply to Rick1on1]

It does. Thanks

[goodhabbits in reply to Morphling]

My own experience, i stop medication because it makes me weak and to the point that I cannot even stand up and just wanna stay in bed.

[Sleeplessme in reply to Morphling]

Sorry my replies are always late, I'm a busy guy! 😂 ... You're more than welcome and I hope your relationship is strong enough to last through the anxiety.

I see you talking meds... I'm on the side of the fence that disagrees with meds. It's an opinion and not based on scientific evidence, however, I believe strongly that it's a band-aid rather than a cure.

Read the recent post by Jeff1943

@ he puts it better than I ever could. And the book is awesome!

[Morphling in reply to Sleeplessme]

Yes I think this way too. I don’t wanna rely on meds cause I would think all the work done is by meds.I will check it , thanks.

[Tapkiken]

Greetings to you. I was recently diagnosed with GAD and I have had sex twice in one and a half years and still beat mysely for it. Recently, I met someone whom I like and wanted to have a casual relationship with, which is okay with me, but I can't bring myself to be intimate with him. I am not even sure if I am allowed to have sex. What If I do and he leaves, what do I do? Or what if it happens and he doesn't like it? So many questions and since my diagnosis, I am ready to do it and if I feel anxious, I know how to deal with it.