Need some encouragement

[Katelan24]

My birthday is tomorrow and I hated all my birthday in the past bc of my anxiety

[Hidden]

I hope you have a great birthday tomorrow. Do you have the day planned? I don’t like my birthday too much either. I cry. I feel like a loser that another year of life has gone by and I’m not where I want to be or have the life I hoped for. So I try to not work on my birthday and just spend it how I like to the extent that I can. I hope tomorrow is different than your birthdays in the past and you have a nice day.

[Daisy777 in reply to Hidden]

Gee I feel the same way. Another year and still on the bottom. How many more years do I have to feel like this!! 60 is coming up and I have nothing to show for it. I’ve wasted my life and screwed up over the years. People around me prosper and I’m still on the bottom. Just getting by. When I hit 30 years old I was so depressed, I felt like everything was going down hill from here on and it pretty much was! Well on that note I hope you can enjoy your birthday somehow. It’s a hard way to feel.

[Agora1]

Katelan24, Make this birthday different, anxiety or not. It's your special day.

Treat yourself. It doesn't have to be anything big. Make a wish for the coming

year. Believe in that things will change for you.

Happy Birthday Katelan! May all your dreams come true xx

[barb08]

Take time and enjoy your birthday. You deserve it. Happy Birthday.

[softwaremom00]

Hugs and happy birthday wishes!

[Strongheartforever]

Echoing all of these good thoughts. Transform this energy that has you in its grip, turn it around. This is the challenge for all of us. It’s about redirecting the energy with conscious effort. You also need magnesium, a day with a friend, a way to make your gifts known to the world, to give yourself a break, find gratitude and make your health the priority of your life. Happiness is simple. Misery is complicated. You were brought into the world and given amazing gifts, health, freedom, endless possibilities. There are two choices, always: fear or love. Make the right choice tomorrow. Happy birthday to YOU.

[Michael8072]

Happy birthday Katelan24! I hope you have a wonderful day! Hope you do something that you love to do!!

[fauxartist]

well fellow Libra....happy up-coming birthday...mine is also in a few days...and I was usually on my own as a kid in a strangers home, so my birthday was none existent for many years of my life....take this day back for you....and make it yours...get yourself something nice, get your favorite what ever....and celebrate.... have a great day and happy birthday honey.

[noisybox]

I've dealt with a similar thing on my birthday. Maybe we should call it "Birthday Anxiety" Here's something I wrote dealing with my last birthday....

Birthdays, with all their well-intentioned wishes, have gotten into my head.

“Here’s to you getting all you wish for on your special day!” or “Hope your special day brings you all that your heart desires!” or “Today is your day!”

I feel a little bit overwhelmed to make each year the best one yet and to make this day remarkable. Every birthday, I wrestle with the unrealistic expectations of the celebrations, musicals, and epic adventures that ought to occur.

That week I’m ok. The day before I'm ok….For some reason, the rest of the year, I'm relatively okay with facing and accepting life. But not today.

Today should be about happiness and rainbows and sprinkles and sparkles. But I know. I know that I know. The more tightly I wrap my thoughts around a certain outcome, the more rigidly I fall.

But it's my birthday! Can’t I have a one-day break from all my emotions?!

It’s “Happy Birthday!” Not “Okay Birthday.” or “Have a Semi-Enjoyable Birthday...”

This year I made the arrangement to go flying on my birthday. Definitely a step outside of myself! It happened, but a few days later - NOT on my birthday. On my birthday, there were a few storms kicking up around that the flight instructor seemed to be slightly concerned about.

I didn’t tell him when he called to reschedule that he was ruining my birthday, but that’s how it felt. I could feel my thoughts begin to swirl and my emotions sinking. I knew IT was beginning to happen, and as much as I would have liked IT to stop, I could feel the emotions tighten around me.

A rough ride for my birthday. Sadness and self-pity and then guilt for feeling sad and self-pity. I had the two best men in my life take me out for custard and plant shopping amongst my trips on various emotional rollercoasters.

This is not how I wanted the day to go. I was sad most of the day when I was trying so hard to be happy. I knew I had let unrealistic expectations ruin my day, but that didn't help me come out of it. Eventually I began to be okay knowing for the moment I wasn't. Slowly I became unentangled, not by effort or by struggle but by being ok going through my birthday as I would face any other day.

And then sure enough, the next morning, I woke up fine.

[Pepe1962]

I understand that feeling since I felt the same way you do on my last birthday. I contacted a mental health crisis hotlines only to hear cornball suggestions on how to make myself feel better on my birthday, a birthday that just came and went. My birthday happened to be on a weekday. Those hotline responders made me feel more depressedafter I hung up. I do better talking to myself.

[Hidden]

Happy birthday...🎉🌹🌹

I hope your day is peaceful x