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I came so that you can live life more abundantly

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My question is...are you alive or are you living? Right now in my life I am both! I had to learn to let things go and let God do his job. At one point in my life, I wanted to be everything to everyone...I wanted to be the best friend, best worker, best landlord, best child, best parent...And then it happened...everyone...minus a handful actually turned their backs on me. And yes I can say I caused a lot of it because I didn’t set boundaries. I’d allow people to use me, take advantage of me, and allow others thoughts to have an impact on my life. Then I realized...why am I doing all of this...why am I striving for perfection in others lives and my life was near from perfection. And on the outSide looking in...you would think I had it going on. But trying to be the best drained me mentally, physically, financially, and emotionally. I had it to my wits end.

So I started to stop trying to be the best and just trying to be me...I stopped trying to please others and I stopped trying to be the best. And I must admit...it was a huge relief. And I am thankful.

I hope this is an inspiration to someone else that is struggling with depression and anxiety.

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hypercat54

Well done and it's great you have realised that. I think many of us are people pleasers then find out it doesn't work and we end up pleasing no one not even ourselves. If we make ourselves happier then those around us will be too so this is a win win situation. x

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rach1402

Or maybe they got tired of you forcing your religion upon them. People know where the church is if they want to be preached at. Read the rules, no religion 😠

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cravenell in reply to rach1402

Thank you for your comment

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Jansblu2 in reply to rach1402

Seeing the scripture actually comforted me. Some of us get comfort from that... If you don't like it rach1402 don't read it just scroll past it . He wasnt condemning anyone or preaching.. He was quoting from a book the bible. Had nothing to do with religion... Thank you Cravenell

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rach1402 in reply to Jansblu2

If he was quoting from the bible, how can you say it has nothing to do with religion? If you don't like my comment, you don't have to read that either. You keep contradicting yourself. I know some people get comfort from religion but there is a time and a place for it and this forum is not one of them. It's not me who was operating outside of the guidelines, it's in the rules for everyone to see.

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morenews

I needed this today. I have to remind myself that I can be only what I am.... I can not please my boss because she does not seem to be satisfied with me period. I have to remind myself that I am great and trying to do my job the best I can ... not for her but just because this is the way I am.

And if it is not enough for her, be it....

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cravenell in reply to morenews

Amen

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Grimreaper

Great post cravenell

The root cause of all problems is no one is perfect but they don’t accept it and then every one expect perfection from other ...

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