Attachment

[Malumaf]

I don’t know how to not get attached to people who give me positive attention and make me feel good and I always get hurt in the end

[fauxartist]

what kind of relationships did you have as a kid with family and friends?

[Malumaf in reply to fauxartist]

I wasn’t well liked really

[fauxartist in reply to Malumaf]

I think as we try our approach to finding friends and relationships, we find what works and what does not. It's a hard cruel world out there, and if your a sensitive soul, it's easy to be hurt, I don't envy anyone having to try and find relationships these days in the real world. A good place to start would be to establish boundaries for yourself. What is or is not appropriate conversation in casual relationships. When do you move to the next step with a person of interest....give yourself time to get to know people. And if you want to get more socially adept....keep sharing here for instance and make friends here. Find out what you like to do and look for groups in your area that do like minded things...that would give you something in common with a group to focus on. We are inevitably going to get our feelings hurt, we just have to try our best to not take everything too seriously, and go with the flow more. But if you feel slighted by someone, you don't have to take that either...that would be where your boundaries come in handy.

[Malumaf in reply to fauxartist]

I really appreciate this reply like thank you so much for this advice

[fauxartist in reply to Malumaf]

Your not alone here Malumaf....you have a whole community behind you....

[Malumaf in reply to fauxartist]

Thank you I really needed to hear that