Wife of an ocd husband. I am not lacking patience and this is just the beginning of our marriage.

[Rosalma]

If you had been through this, I would love to hear your advice. I want to have a happy life with him that seems difficult.

[fauxartist]

what kind of ocd does your husband have and is he in therapy. Sometimes it's a good idea to do some couples therapy so you can learn how to disassociate yourself from his issues and work on your own life around this. My partner has overcome the majority of their OCD ....there's was cleaning, not wanting to be touched.....that was the result of a tremendous traumatic incident in their life and how their suppressed emotions manifested themselves. Now after long term therapy and being with me and my stuff....we have helped heal each other more over the years as well. Love and understanding are very healing.

[Rosalma in reply to fauxartist]

My husband had ocd with movements. They can be of Us (like going to multiple places same day for shopping of household) or his thimgs like papers, clothes etc. To give you some idea, after 3 months of marriage he is still unble to bring his clothes, computer and shoes from house of parents to our new apartment. He comes our home just for sleeping n eating. Rest for working, seeing his clothes n papers he visits parent's house everyday.

He is doing occupational therapy and taking medicines.

[fauxartist in reply to Rosalma]

I completely feel for you....it's unfortunate this did not change when you got married. Is he willing to address these issue with you in therapy as it is unusual and a bit alienating I would imagine for you.

[Rosalma in reply to fauxartist]

He wants to be appreciated of little things he does. Like buying dinning table, bed and bathroom acessórios that were alSo hell kinda tiring thing by myside. I feel tired of pushing everything.

[fauxartist in reply to Rosalma]

it is exhausting dealing with someone with OCD.....and that's why therapy may be able to help you express some of that frustration without you or your husband feeling guilty for having real feelings around this. It's both of you now dealing with OCD, and even though you knew I'm sure he had it before you married...it's still surprising how things manifest themselves as the marriage tries to find it's footing, and yes....this is not a good start....hence....good idea for couples therapy.

[Rosalma in reply to fauxartist]

I knew he has ocd. But he was completely different before marriage. As we were living different houses. His ocd effects ppl inside house. Before were his parents, now it's me.

[fauxartist in reply to Rosalma]

well....you don't need to become a parent for an adult child for sure....so for sure therapy....or tough choices.....if you love him enough....it's a lot of work ahead of you....It has been going on for me for 7 years plus....but it's worth it for me.....everyone has a different level of relationship...and if your sacrificing too much of yourself and your own happiness...you have to re-evaluate how much more of yourself you are willing to put into it.