Mistakes

[lolavee1]

When i was younger i always said i didnt want kids and i wasnt one of those little girls that dreamt of getting married but now here i am married with 2 kids. My kids are amazing a pain in the ass sometimes but arent they all but im starting to feel like my marriage was a mistake. I find myself questioning if i even love him i hate being around him and his family sometimes and its just putting me in more of a depressing mood. I dont feel happy i feel im wasting my time but im scared to make any rash decisions what if its just stress with kids and work what if im just thinking too much idk i just dont know what to do.

[Hidden]

I feel the same way sometimes. I have two little ones who love their dad but he hasn’t always been the best and I just about had it this year. But it’s hard with kids and maybe he knew something was up bc he has been better. But sometimes I still get so mad and feel like I hate him and I definitely don’t like his mom. I’m hear if you need to talk.

[Strongheartforever]

Dr Laura has an online course called the Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands and I’m just throwing that out there because you have the power to turn this around. This is also a book and it didn’t save my first marriage (13 years) but it certainly has given me great tools that have helped my 2nd (and last) marriage. Once you take in her wisdom you feel bolstered and empowered as a woman and a wife. Divorce can drop a bomb on your kids’ well being as you well know, but a happy mother is a very good thing for them too. If you break up you lose control of what happens when they’re with him. That’s a biggie. Consider making the best of things til they’re a bit older? Just a few thoughts and sending you empathy, this is a tough situation.

[Hidden]

Hello lolavee1!

I don’t know...maybe you should listen to your gut feelings. I can get mad, disappointed, frustrated and disillusioned with my husband at times (I’m sure he feels the same about me sometimes) but I never stop loving him and I’ve never questioned that. I may question certain things, but I never have the thought of not loving him and never have. I could be all alone in my feelings, but that’s how it goes for me. I’m sorry that you’re going through this crisis in your life. I’m sure it’s quite troublesome to wake up with those feelings. You’ll have to sort out your feelings as no one can do it for you. Trust and believe in yourself! You can get through this! Wishing you peace of mind and strength!

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Yes all kids are a pain in the ass sometimes. Having said that, my daughters and grandkids are my favorite people in the world.

Husband- not so much.

I can’t tell you to stay or go, but if you don’t want to be with him and you can afford to support your leg and the kids. Don’t stay. I did and now it’s too late. My husband is now disabled and I would have to pay alimony if I left him which wouldn’t leave me with enough to live on(I have a 15 year old at home still). I am stuck in an unhappy marriage. S x was the best thing about it and he paid the bills. Now those things are gone, and I am stuck. Don’t let this happen to you