What I said was it wrong

[Sky2016]

I been sick the past two days with a migraine. I usually wear my hubby underwear to bed. So this morning he tells me I have the pair left that I don’t like. I told him I am sorry i did not get to,put the laundry away yesterday there’s a basket in the hallways with clean clothes since it’s bothering you. By me telling him this ww2 broke out. He started screaming obscenities calling me names. Keep in mind my head feels like it’s about to pop. He treats me like this because of the past. Will he ever change. I feel like a punching bag when his buddy make him mad online. I feel he takes his anger and frustration out on me.

[Red_Angle]

odds are he will not change. he shouldn't be yelling at you for something so small, especially since there were clean clothes available to him. it's not like you didn't do laundry or you were using his last pair.

[Sky2016 in reply to Red_Angle]

Sometimes I feel like it would be better if I was gone. I usually get 1 to 3 migraine a month. Vomiting the whole works. He says it was wrong what I said. But funny thing he waited an hour before he started the abuse. He was online gaming and his buddy pissed him off so he took it out on me. When he’s sick I am at his servant making sure he’s ok. He’s mentally and verbally abusive. I got up did the bed put the laundry away. I am just sitting here on my couch looking out the window with my migraine and crying which makes the pain worse. What do I do. How much can somebody take. I feel god has abandoned me.

[Red_Angle in reply to Sky2016]

I understand how bad migraines can be. My brother, mother, and sister-in-law all have migraines and they have vomited, been stuck in bed all day, and even missed school or work because of migraines. He should be more understanding about them and if he really just doesn't know how bad it can get then he should talk to your doctor with you so he has an "expert" opinion since the person (you) who is experiencing the actual migraine is not good enough.

I understand the feeling of just not wanting to be gone and everyone would be better off, however, I'm sure you have family/friends and maybe even coworkers that would miss you if you were to just up and leave.

God has not abandoned you. He is fighting so hard but I believe that sometimes God has to really fight and Satan's horrible ways can cause us so much pain. Don't think he's left you because he is fighting so hard. He's not a miracle worker you have to give him time. He also needs you to fight back. This may be the point that he tells you that you are worth more and deserve more than this man. You don't deserve a man to speak to you like that.

Couples will fight and say awful things to each other, however, what your experiencing is abuse. If you ever need someone to just randomly talk to I'm here for you.

[Sky2016 in reply to Red_Angle]

Thank you so much. I been all alone this time. No friends no comworkers. It’s just me. He sees how sick I get. My daughter she’s 18 tells me mom what’s his deal. I only leave my house to visit the cemetery or grocery store. So no friends at all. I don’t even visit my parents.

Lost my granddaughter

Quit an abusing job

Husband won’t let me get a job. If he does I am sleeping with everybody

Dad has prostate cancer

My husband did not allow my 18 year get a job.

Yea ask myself what in the world did I do to deserve so much pain and sadness.

I have always helped people I been a good daughter so what have I done to deserve all of this. Thank you again for listening to me it helped me allow

[Red_Angle in reply to Sky2016]

wouldn't ALLOW you to get a job? I'd tell him to sit down and shut the fuck up. That is a tell tale sign of an abusive man. You need to kick his ass to the curb because you are soooo not deserving of this kind of attitude and abuse.

[Sky2016 in reply to Red_Angle]

You know the abused this morning was because I said “ since it bothers you there’s clean clothes in the hallway. I should of not said anything. But the other day he tells me I don’t do anything. I stayed quiet. I did not yell or cursed or anything cause in the back of my mind I am thinking who cleans the house who cooks dinner who does laundry. Then he caught himself he try to correct himself but the damage was done. He screams at the top of his lung. I stay quiet 🤫. I tell myself just keep your mouth shut.

[Hidden in reply to Sky2016]

I’m so sorry that you’re struggling with your marriage. I just want you to know that God hasn’t abandoned you...He never moves, but we move. Are you seeking Him earnestly? If you seek Him with all your heart, you will find Him. I believe this! You have to cultivate your spiritual life just like you have to work at staying mentally healthy. It all takes action on your part. God never abandons us, we abandon Him. Seek Him...

[Tkay93]

You did nothing wrong. You did the laundry but didn’t put it way, there’s nothing wrong with that. There was no reason to yell at you. On another note, you can change people you can only change yourself. Stay strong and standup for yourself, you have the courage and the strength to do so. Let him know how it makes you feel when he speaks to you like that, remind him of it every time it happens. Stay strong

[rach1402]

You can't win with someone like that, he'll just find fault with you no matter what you do. I agree with the person who said you should kick him to the kerb, he'll just make you more ill and he's not there for you when you need him. It's not your fault that he's such a control freak, he's obviously got issues but he can only control you as much as you let him. He can't dictate to you whether or not you're allowed to get a job so do what is right for you and if he doesn't like it he knows where the door is. You don't need a man to take care of you, especially one like that who doesn't even try to take care of you like him. You go girl, you're stronger than you know x