prenatal depression

[Moana33]

I am 34 weeks pregnant. I am also a mum of a 6 years old boy. I had depression for years before I get pregnant. But since i got pregnant, i was doing fine. a month ago depression hit me like a hurricane. I am losing my mind, crying all the time, fighting with husband .. crying, anxious ..etc. yesterday, I had a fight with my husband and i had very strong suicidal thoughts. I fought so hard not to hurt myself and the baby.

when I ask help from my husband, he does not understand what i am going through on the contrary he does everything that pisses me of. he gets angry when he sees me crying, I don't know why.

I called my doctor today and she told me to take an antidepressant since I am in the area of suicidal tendency. but I read about it online and I got scared it could hurt the baby.

I need support .. I am very tired physically and mentally. I have no one around to understand what I am going through and I really don't want to hurt the baby, I have waited for soo long.. it's a girl

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Wow. This is a tough one. I wonder what antidepressant is safest in your situation. If you have to go to the ER —please go. It’s better that than to hurt yourself and your little one that is unborn. And you have another child. I’ll be thinking of you please let us know how you’re doing

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Wow. This is a tough one. I wonder what antidepressant is safest in your situation. If you have to go to the ER —please go. It’s better that than to hurt yourself and your little one that is unborn. And you have another child. I’ll be thinking of you please let us know how you’re doing

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Hello Moana33!

I’m sorry that you’re struggling so right now. I was depressed during my 3rd pregnancy and also wanted to die. I do feel for you Moana! It’s so hard...since your doctor advised you to take an antidepressant, if it were me, I would. Your baby is already formed, just mostly growing and gaining weight right now. Not only do you have to worry about your precious baby, but you have to take care of the vessel in which she thrives...you! She’s not ok without you! Think about it...going to jail right now would not be fun. Just kidding...I want you to smile! 😊

[eoharafisher]

I was extremely anxious and depressed during my pregnancy with my daughter. I believe part of the reason was because I had to go off medication after finding out I was pregnant. At some point, I too wanted to die. In the last couple of months, my psychiatrist put me back on xanax (but not the other meds.) It helped some-- though I got some flack from the pharmacist who shamed me. After I gave birth, I went back on all my medication, and slowly got better. My daughter was fine and is a beautiful 26 yr old now. I'm glad I had a psychiatrist who understood; I just wish there had been other meds I could have taken earlier if it had been determined that they were safe while pregnant.

Be kind to yourself. Recognize your behavior with your husband is coming from your illness. I believe there is hope for your future!

[Moana33]

Thanks for yoyr kind replies. Well .. i read about the antidepressant and it is written on the internet that it raises the risk of autism. Which freak me out. I trsut my doctor and she assured me it ok .. but i am afraid if i take it will add to my anxiety and i will thinking and searching all day about its side effect.

I will try to do without it .. and with more natural remedies. I hope i will be able to make it. Please pray for me

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