States of Grief

[rachel913]

For anyone who has dealt with hardship, where do you fall on the graph?

I'm stuck in the "re-entry" troubles.

[Tikirob]

I’m skate boarding all around that thing.

[rachel913 in reply to Tikirob]

Hahah and that is perfectly fine! Progress is never strictly linear

[Tikirob in reply to rachel913]

True that, thanks!

[Hidden in reply to Tikirob]

I’ve never related to something more in my life than what you just said, Tikirob. You’re my spirit animal.

[Tikirob in reply to Hidden]

🦉🦉🦉🦉✨✨✨✨thanks!

[Hidden]

Wow that is like my life story right there when I was homebound till now. Wow 😮. I am on helping others.

[rachel913 in reply to Hidden]

That is so fantastic! What advice would you have in terms of entering the new relationships phase?

[Hidden in reply to rachel913]

No one is the same after a hardship so starting new relationships might feel overwhelming. Being vulnerable again can bring more insecurities out that were hidden. So take your time and be patient with yourself. It’s all self knowledge in the end and knowing what is best for you in light of that knowledge. I used to view being agoraphobic for fourteen years as a tragedy for me. I see now it has allowed me to grow and be a more caring and considerate person. I wouldn’t have learned those things about myself had I not enetered new relationships with people. Isolation only furthers false beliefs and confirms you in your negative thoughts. I say if you are ready go for it.

[rachel913]

I thought so too! I saw it and was like wow I can totally relate to all this!

[Hidden]

I lost several people this year. I'm still going through these stages. When does it end?

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Girl, it ends when we end! I’ve learned through my recovery that the pain will lessen as time goes on, but you’re going to miss them forever! It’s good to miss them & grieve for them. It means you had the pleasure of having someone worth missing in your life! 🖤