Why can't I control myself?

[Rlost]

Hi, I'm new here. I have experienced anxiety and panic attacks when I was 16, I am now 22 years old. My anxiety often leads to panic attacks specially in public places. I had managed to control my anxiety for almost 6 years, but last month it came back. I am not able to go to work anymore or do the things I use to enjoy doing because of my anxiety. I feel I have no control of myself when I am having a panic attack and I don't know what to do anymore.

[Tibbi]

Have you been going to a counsellor at all? Can that help?

[Rlost in reply to Tibbi]

My primary care provider referred me to see a mental health therapist, but the appointment is until the 20th of this month.

[teemo1]

It's that trying to control anxious feelings, struggling with them, trying to make them go away, actually strengthens them. Managing anxiety involves learning various techniques to let negative thoughts come and go without engaging with them. These are skills that are developed gradually over time. I would recommend reading The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris to learn how.

The good news is, once you get your anxiety under control, you can use these same techniques to improve your career, your relationships, and your life in general, which is a huge bonus. You may one day consider your bout with anxiety to be a blessing in a very ugly disguise.

In the meantime, here are a couple of quick online articles that helped me out:

anxietynetwork.com/content/...

anxietynetwork.com/content/...

And remember, you got through this before and you will get through it again!

[Rlost in reply to teemo1]

Thank You

[fighterlife]

Hey Rlost,

Your feelings are totally normal and characteristic of anxiety. I’ve experienced similar symptoms and feelings. Do you know why your anxiety came back? Did something in your life change? It takes courage but I’d like to recommend speaking with a pastor, mentor or counselor. I’ve found help with all three. The sooner you start the less you’ll have to wait for clear answers. You can definitely find healing and help!

Prayers,

[Rlost]

Thank you