Telling friend

[KittyR15]

So I have been suffering in silence for almost a year with anxiety and depression. I’ve found it hard to talk to people. I was wondering if I should talk to my best friend about my feelings. At times I feel like I don’t have the motivation to continue. I’ve tried talking to my husband but he didn’t understand how bad things where until I started talking about ending it all. I feel so lonely even with so many people around.

[Marshall64]

Is your friend a person that you can trust. Is she non- judgemental and caring?

[KittyR15]

Someone I can trust. I don’t know about non judgmental. But I’m afraid of how I will feel toward her if I do share my feelings.

[Raiden]

You should go to your doctor first and get an assessment be honest with them dont hold back. The thing with telling friends is they might not know how to help and it can make it worse if they dont put in effort. I speak to my friends who have issues about my problems but not my healthy friends. Unless somebody has felt suicidal or helpless they cant truly understand. Its like telling someone who has never been in love what love feels like its a feeling not an understanding. You have bn very brave to stay strong this long i know that it is not easy. Go to your doctor ASAP its time to heal it won't just go away overnight. Your husband may not understand and he might feel abit lost and question if its your marriage why you feel like this. Let him b there for you but at the end of the day it is your own battle he can not fix it. I hope the best for you its a marathon but it does get easyer. Thanx for sharing its the first step

[KittyR15 in reply to Raiden]

Thank you so much for that good advice. It has been so hard, in the beginning I thought this was something I would shake off like a phase but its only getting worse. I have felt more and more alone lately. I feel like I have to submerge myself in more and more activities and task so I am not left alone with my own thoughts and short comings. I am getting nervous because I have upcoming activities that I will be with friends for long periods of time and I don't know how I will be able to adjust or how long I can wear my mask of happiness. It took me 3 months to finally get the nerve to call a doctor, unfortunately I could not get an immediate appointment so I have to hold on a bit longer. I do understand what you are saying about letting my husband be my support, it helps a lot especially on days when I hit bottom. thank you again

[Raiden]

Its ok i actually slit my wrist and i wouldnt want any one to get to that stage its much easyer to b honest with whats going. You dont have to go to events you have a choice your not doing anything wrong if you dont think it is going to be good just politly tell them you cant go. Ive had to learn to say no alot more for my own well being if i think its going to be stressful i dont go its a balance of putting yourself first. There is no point looking into the future to far it is pointless it will stress you out just focus one day at a time. If you start thinking negative thoughts know it has no place you are focused on getting better and being happy again. Have faith, keeping positive is the best thing you can do. Dont feel guilty or beat yourself up it is not your fault this is happening it is time for a life change. On you tube there is some good videos "Ted talks Anxiety" im here if you need to talk im in Australia so the times might b fairly different. I hope you get a good sleep try not to overthink keep it simple and positive 😊

[Hidden]

You should be able to talk to a friend. You need support now. Even if the friend can't relate to depression and anxiety, he/she will know that you are going through something and you need help. Talk to a doctor as well.

[Raiden]

Hey mate i hope your feeling better today after getting that off yoir chest. Just remember it takes time so dont stress if you feel the same for awhile. Its all about retraining your brain to b positive and to really only care about the things that are important to you. B kind to yourself take care

[KittyR15 in reply to Raiden]

Thanks. I was feeling better. But I pretty much just just settled into my state of depression. I feel like this is my new normal which is okay with me, except when I go to low into suicidal thoughts. If that makes any sense. But thank you again it helps to talk. And reading your story of your one year anniversary helps me know that suicide is not the answer.

[Hidden]

Sometimes it can be hard to share how we feel with someone because we fear their judgement. However it is good to find someone you can trust and share with. We all need a good sounding board. Life is hard and we all have days when we want to give up. However I encourage you to press on. You never know what tomorrow brings.