Hey everyone. Brian here. I regret to say that this will be my last ever post on this website. As many of you are probably aware, over the past day or so some very heated drama has been playing out here. Truth be told, I didn't have all the facts in the matter (I still don't) and that I'm big enough to admit when I may be in the wrong. It happens. We can't all be right all of the time. Sometimes, we can get a hold of the wrong end of the stick. I'm human, and because I'm human I make mistakes. I'm big enough to admit that.
However, with that said, what I will not tolerate, from friend or adversary alike, is being attacked verbally or physically. I will not put up with it, nor will I stand for it. Today, such an occurrence happened. Not once, but twice. Unfortunately, this is the world we're living in now. People think they can attack someone and there won't be consequences to their actions. Well, they're wrong. There are always consequences to your actions, whether the consequences are good or bad. Cause and effect. In short, I am not going to utilize a website that allows such disrespectful behavior to go unchecked. I am truly sorry to all those who have enjoyed my posts and have been a vital part of my life's story from this past April through to now. I've enjoyed getting to know many of you and sharing a funny anecdote or two along the way. But, right now, I've got bigger fish to fry. Cancer doesn't take a day off to let your feelings mend. That is a fight that I need to be at my best for. The last few days, however, have showed me that I'm not where I should be mentally to effectively battle cancer. Not even close. Instead of being a place to get support and offer support in return, this site has broken down into factions being formed, and tit-for-tat exchanges being lobbed at people who are normally so friendly with one another. Right now, I don't need that in my life. I can't have that in my life. So, I'm distancing myself from this site. I will leave my account active for a few more days in case there are those members who wish to exchange contact information so we can keep in touch. By this Friday (August 31), I will be closing my account down permanently. I will not be coming back, even after my successful fight with cancer is over. That is a consequence of what has transpired over the last day or two.
Finally, I want to take a second to thank all of those lovely people who have been so kind and gracious to me over the four-plus months I've been active on this site. You will always be held in high regard in my mind. It is with a touch a sadness that I am leaving because I know I probably won't be able to talk to many of you again. Keep your chin up, and always try to think positively. Things could always be much worse than they are.
Hopefully, everyone will still be able to get the support they need from this site. But, I cannot, in good conscience, stay here any longer. It's time for me to hunker down and redouble my efforts to battling cancer and making sure that I am cancer-free by this Halloween.
Stay safe, be happy & live well!
A friend,
Brian
PS. Never say never. To do so would be inviting the fickle finger of fate to stab it's bony finger in your chest and making a fool of you. I may be back in the future, but right now, battling cancer has to be my top priority. I'm too stressed out right now to be able to fight against it effectively. So, in the immortal words of General Douglas MacArthur -- I SHALL RETURN!
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This is all my fault. I am so so sorry, Brian. I should've never posted yesterday. You didn't need to be attacked by that person too.
Kayla, don't worry about it. You can't control the actions of others. You were well within your rights to voice your concerns. That other person, however, had no right to verbally attack me. When it comes to verbal attacks or bullying, I'm a zero-tolerance guy. I won't put up with it. Period. I've sent you a PM. I want to still be in your life, if you'll have me.
This is unacceptable. Brian, you are such a light for this community. No one should ever speak to you this way. I am devastated by what has happened to this place that I hold so dear in my heart. I love all of you. I'm so, so sorry. :((((((
Kayla, it's ok. You've always got a friend in me Right now, however, I need a break. And if anyone says 'Break me off a piece of that Kit-Kat bar', I'm gonna bang heads together! lol
Kayla, this is not your fault, everyone deals with issues differently. There is no fault! Brian is very clear, this is his choice. You need to post what you feel. We all have opportunities to grow, no one is a failure, no decision made by a member has to do with anything other than there personal choices. Don’t beat yourself up over this.
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No it's not. Don't do this to your sweet adorable self...you're in a sensitive space...time to be kind & gentle to you...hug yourself. I love you sweetie pie!
Hi Brain. I hope you are able to sleep on this.... You so valued here, your post always put a smile on my face. I wish I got to in know you better.... I understand if how you are feeling. I hope all the best for you, know you will total kick cancers butt.💛 Big hugs.
Mr. Bridder. All we have is this very moment. I understand that you feel the need to disconnect now because you need to take care of yourself. Take care of yourself! Be kind to yourself! You know how to reach me and please let me know if there is anything I can do for you. Big hugs.
Bring some good news when you come back Brian, i hope you kick cancers booty lol, best wishes
Hi I don't know you n of course you don't know me I'm kinda new here ,but drama is everywhere, it's apart of life and sites like this hmmm maybe not ,but it happens ! Example : I play on a game site where we can chat ..Omg it's like a soap opera sometimes lol! Ppl talking a putting ppl down ,and those ppl who do it ..enjoy it !smh it's for attention, or they're just not happy ,idk ..but i just skip along a play the game and stay with ppl who enjoy seeing my posts ,and are ppl who are a pleasure to see ,In good times n bad ! I'm not leaving ! Tc n hope you get healthy soon !!♡♡
Was your heart in the right place? That’s what matters.
Brian the vast majority of the people here are great but you will always get the odd one who will abuse and troll you. I speak from bitter experience on this and other sites and there have been a number of times I have nearly left Once or twice I did and came back with another alias. I did tell others my new one though.
If this site is helping you overall then why not stay and just have a little break. I haven't seen any drama except that someone sent Kayla a nasty pm or something so I don't know what else has gone on. If I had seen it I would be have been straight in as I hate this sort of thing.
Unfortunately although this forum is open 24/7 there is only part time moderation and this is mainly in the UK day time I think. Weekends and holidays can be tricky too. This means that despite posts/replies being report they can often stay up for a long time still. If this happens to me I just stay off until it has been dealt with by the admins.
Take a break and chill but know that you are valued very much on here and please come back soon. x
I know we haven't talked much. You've been very kind and you really cheer up a lot of folks here. I'm not on here much, but have come across posts I can relate to and they've given me things to think about.
It's a shame you are making this choice because of someone's poor behavior.
I wish you all the best and look forward to hearing from you when you've beat cancer!!
Brian, I hope you will change your mind. I would miss your posts a lot, they lifted my spirits and inspired.
I wish you to kick cancer ass!
Wow. So many incredible and inspiring people are leaving just because of one person. All it takes is one person to ruin the party. I'm sorry to hear that Brian, and I wish you the best.
Oh Brian I have a huge void in my heart right now, but totally understand where you are coming from. Please pm me, I'd love to stay in touch with you my friend! Love, hugs, peace, light, joy & of course hugs!!!
Brian I’m sorry you are leaving because of one idiot!! You always were uplifting in spite of what you are facing. My prayers are with you that you will get well. I Will miss your encouraging words. But like you said maybe you will be back. But for now take care of yourself, rest eat healthy and get well.
Hi Brian sorry I've not replied to you're posts before sorry to read you're leaving I don't know what the idiot said but I do know your posts help a lot of people get through their day you always come across as being upbeat in the face of adversity I would be gutted to see you leave but respect you're decision you need to do what you feel is right for you best wishes in you're battle as Churchill said we shall never surrender god bless and please stay strong ✌️
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Right now, however, I need a break. And if anyone says 'Break me off a piece of that Kit-Kat bar', I'm gonna bang heads together! lol
