Anxiety

[Des91]

Hey everyone I’m new to the page I just need some kind of support or advice from other people that may have been through this .Im 26 years old and I have 2 kids a 6 yr old and a 1 year old but they aren’t what causes my anxiety.I literally feel my chest tightening and shortness of breath I have anxiety because I want to feel special to my fiancé again..he has anger issues and at times I get anxiety because I am afraid of his responses to things or lack of sensitivity.I need my life back I have no friends anymore little to no contact with family and at times I feel so overwhelmed hopefully someone can give me some hope

[Strongheartforever]

If he turns on you, and he will at some point with his “anger issues”, who will you turn to for support? Start building a support system around you, please. Call up family and friends, just reconnect. Can you get away once a week to a group class or support group or massage/facial/whatever? There’s gotta be some time set aside for you to be around supportive people. A time for you to refresh and rejuvenate yourself. You matter too. Is there a hobby or sport you want to pursue? Don’t lose yourself completely in serving others. And have a safety net of loving friends or family to be there for you when things get tough as they will now and then. This forum is great for support, advice, venting, being heard and known and understood.

[Des91 in reply to Strongheartforever]

I feel guilty for trying to reconnect with people that I kind of left behind it’s not gunna be easy for me but I’m gunna have to do something ..I feel worthless at times an inhuman with some of the responses I get from my partner ..like honestly if he knew I had this page he would be so upset but i need support so bad I’ve resorted to this

[Strongheartforever in reply to Des91]

That’s a red flag, that he would be upset about you seeking support. Your relationship with him should be a safe place. As much as you want things to work out with him, prepare for the possibility that he may sink the ship and you need to have that rescue boat ready. I do understand the guilt of neglecting friendships but they can always be revived. People just need to feel you’re also concerned about and want to support them. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket with this guy because he may disappoint you.

[zevietnameseguy98]

I know it's hard but you need to go back out there and make some friends. Make some friends upon this forum too. We are here for you and we know what you are going through. Supportive friends can be really helpful for your mental health. Your fiancee should be in better understanding of your anxiety and should control his anger. When he becomes your husband, it's going to be a lifetime responsibility for him to support you through thick and thin and it's important that he's there for you. I am so sorry. Best of luck and stay strong friend xoxo.

[AZ1970]

I can relate to your anxiety. My husband has a history of trauma and tends to lash out under stress. It made me retreat for the longest time. I finally got the courage to speak up for myself and things are getting better. Don’t lose yourself. It’s not worth it.

[Des91 in reply to AZ1970]

Thank you for that it’s scary because I just feel afraid to say anything so therefore I’m holding everything in I feel like I should start do my own thing alone you know..because the person I’m around the most is 100% bothered with these issues that he help create instead of being helpful he gets extremely irritated and angry and starts telling me I’m weak so then I feel belittled at that point I need more friends and more me time I kinda have to detach myself from him just to stay healthy

[Des91]

Thank you so much I needed to hear this ..I have never been more afraid of stressed out in my life and I just wake up run to the bathroom and cry at least twice a week I’m definitely gunna try and make friends on here as well as out doors I really can’t do this alone