Am worried

[Afaaf]

Today I went to a university I want to join this September and this woman who is in the admission office helping me to sign up was so rude to me and I could think of in my head was that I deserve it and that am weak and started worrying about my uni life and how I will deal with rude people in the future all these fears and worries are in my head what do I do? How will I face the world? Am not normal I keep telling myself, I really want to cry this is not how I used to be, the smallest remarks get to me am sooo sensitive 😥

[Hidden]

Maybe she was having a bad day or just not a kind person! People are always going to have an opinion..best thing to do is just let it go...you deserve better!!! Love & Hugs!!!

[Afaaf in reply to Hidden]

That is what am trying to understand but it is not easy for me I feel like am always the problem

[Hidden in reply to Afaaf]

THAT'S US SENSITIVE PEOPLE FOR YOU! We always want to take the blame, we must understand ...it's not always us! Try to move forward. Be positive & strong! Hugs!!!

[Afaaf in reply to Hidden]

Thank u my dear

[Hidden in reply to Afaaf]

My pleasure!!! XXX

[gogogirl in reply to Afaaf]

No, you are not the problem- there are a lot of rude people out there. Stand your ground. You are paying for this not her.

[gogogirl]

Unfortunately, rudeness seems to be quite common these days, but you do not have to take it. Even in medical offices, I myself have run into this.

[Afaaf in reply to gogogirl]

Yeah it is just that I didn't address her rather kept quiet and beat myself down

[gogogirl in reply to Afaaf]

Then you'll know for next time- it's over. Hey, I have ruminated during my life- and I am old- guess what? It does not do any good. People can be short these days- that is all.

[fauxartist]

a lot of us can be pretty thin skinned at times, and it doesn't take much to hurt our feelings....but by all means....you do not deserve in any way to be treated badly, and you also have every right to tell who ever is being rude to you....'excuse me, but I don't know if your having a bad day or not, but you are a professional, and I feel your being a bit rude.'

[Afaaf in reply to fauxartist]

I knooow I should have talked to her but it felt like I accepted her treating me badly, thank u all for the advices ,it will take time for me to stand up for myself I don't how I camee to this I was never like this I always fought back against odds but this year am a different emotional person and I don't like it, it prevents me from doing a lot of things in life

[fauxartist in reply to Afaaf]

Depression can take the fight out of you so to speak by just draining you emotionally to where you just would rather leave something alone rather than deal with it. And also we pick our fights...if you have to deal with them again...and they treat you the same...cause they think they can...and your up to it...then tell them you would appreciate being treated with a bit more courtesy....but if your not up to it, don't worry about it...and walk away knowing your just not in the mood to waste your time correcting a badly mannered person who shouldn't have that job if that's how they treat people, and your a better person than that.

[Rpan]

Sounds like an exciting time, registering at the uni you though long and hard for. Nerve racking also as this is a big commitment. Than wham you get hit with someone who hits some buttons, inside. than everything falls apart, going right to something is wrong with me. I do the same stuff. Standing up at these times for me cause even more discomfort. It’s like when someone does something that I disagree with I take it do personal. This is what needs to change..

[Afaaf in reply to Rpan]

Yeah I do take almost everything too personal and I overthink their opinions and behavior and then worry about how to deal with people in the future, u guys I don't know how to breakthrough this fearful phase I don't like it, advice please I really want to reach my potential but somehow my mind imprisons me with my negative self talk and worry

[Rpan]

Ya the thing that helps me the most is to practice meditation. I know it may sound like nonsense but it works. It takes time to learn and practice. I have not found anything that works as well, but it’s no quick fix. It’s about learning our how our mind works, not why our mind works this way, it’s very different. The other thing that helps is exhaustion, meaning cardio for one hour at 80% of max heart rate daily. It really does change how our mind processes.

[Rpan]

Your not defective, it’s just a process that can be overcome..

[Afaaf in reply to Rpan]

Thank u for the tips I will try

[sunandbutterflies]

Hello,

There are a number of things that you can do to boost your confidence and well being. Like anxiety 59 said, maybe she was having a bad day. If you would like, I can provide you with a list of resources that may be helpful.

An article that I was reading today was saying how making goals, taking care of yourself, exercising, and kindness are among other things that can promote confidence. I hope that helps.

[Afaaf in reply to sunandbutterflies]

Please do share the resources