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Hi. I’m new here. Someone I considered a close friend recently broke my trust, and I’ve been finding it really hard to cope with my feelings by myself and I’m afraid I’m slipping back into old habits of withdrawing, which I don’t want to do...I’m afraid to be judged and pitied if I talk about what goes on in my head with other friends... so I joined this app because I needed a safe space to convey my thoughts and feelings with people who could offer advice or share experiences without judgement.

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Hello and welcome,

You have come to the right place, people will listen to you and hopefully give you help and advice.

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Thank you

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No judgement here. I think we’ve all been in a similar position. It can be devastating to lose the trust and friendship of someone close. I hope you have a therapist with whom you can connect. Working through that kind of loss and feelings of betrayal can take time. Best wishes!

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It is quite hard, mostly because my friend doesn’t think he’s done anything wrong which makes me seem crazy for overreacting.

I haven’t been in therapy for years ...I was , I am , doing much better than I was. I feel like this is a bit of a setback and my way to deal with it , is to just unload it all on here

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It can be difficult to process when the other person’s perspective is different. Unfortunately, we can’t change how other people think and feel. I hope you get the support you need.

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I hope so too. Thank you

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Welcome!!! I'm sorry you're going through this..an awful feeling. I'm here for you! I wish for you love, peace & joy!!! XXX

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Thank you so much. It feels good to know that people care enough and are willing to help 🌸

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Well it would be my pleasure to support you!!! Big hugs!!! XXX

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As a Christian we are taught to put our trust in God because people can and will usually fail you at some point in your life. We are also taught to forgive. God tells us to forgive. It is also better for you if you forgive the person; people have held onto unforegiveness for years and years only to find out the other person forgot about it years ago. Yet they were tormented for years behind unforgiveness. Do not become afraid, foregive the person and move on. You used wisdom in coming to this site, you can not and should not tell everything to any body.

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You do this because you are a Christian?

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Yes, because we pattern our life after God’s word. But before I became a Christian I always heard it said you should foregive, not for the other person but for you. You do not want bitterness to spring up in your heart, nor do you want to walk around hurting. Whether a Christian or not when you do as God instructs you reap the benefits. In this case peace. God says if you foregive others He will foregive you. And we all mess up at some point, we all need His foregiveness. It was not right what your friend did, by no account but foregive them, be very very selective on what you tell them again if anything. I would probably not tell them anything again other than how much you enjoying the nice weather, 🙂. God’s blessings, wishing you the best!

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If you say so.

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Thank you for the advice. You are right yes... I have forgiven my friend. It’s a little bit hard to overcome the pain that has come from this betrayal of trust and in time, I will hopefully be able to let go of the pain

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I will be praying for you. I know it will work out for you, a lesson learned that you can take with you in life.

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I'm so happy you found this site. No judgement here. Folks are really comforting but can also be truthful. Remember, we share what we believe and from our own experiences. We share what works for us. Breaking a trust is a really big deal. Of course you're hurt and scared now to trust. My suggestion would be to be careful who you share your deepest thoughts with. Not everyone can handle it. I'm sorry you were hurt. Keep posting when you need to, and welcome!

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That’s really reassuring and I truly feel welcomed. Thank you

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Hey hun welcome to this site! Im so glad you found it!! I hope it helps u and I’m so sorry you’re feeling low atm x feel free to message anytime 💕

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I’m glad I found it too. Thank you 🌸

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