I'm done with family.

Am i the only one who feels like people think about me cutting and think its a massive burden on them? not because they want me to be ok, but because now i haft to cover the scars and cuts when i go out. I couldn't care less if people see them because people seeing them wont change anything but they care and obviously they only care about what they look like and not about the one thats breaking down so they don't even stop for a second and ask if im ok. They just think about how it's going too make them look. And who is it that im talking about ? My foster mum. or is that just me ?

[bridder01]

I'm sorry to hear that Kid. If they're self-conscious about your scars, that's their problem. Obviously, cutting isn't ok, but you shouldn't have to hide anything. You are just as valuable and precious as anyone else. If people have a problem seeing your scars, that's their problem. You are fine just the way you are. The people who you really want in your life are the ones who can see past the scars and see the beautiful soul that lies within. And I, for one, don't care about the scars. I like you for who you are

A friend,

Brian

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thank you so much. that's made me smile so much

[bridder01 in reply to Hidden]

Anytime Kiddo Chin up, stay positive & give those nay-sayers what for!

[lovetodance2018]

I am sorry your family feels that way. I think some of their is reaction is that they don't know how to relate to you with your struggles of cutting. They also, are being self-centered, worrying what others will think about their parenting. I am also so sorry to hear you are cutting. I hope you are getting help and seeking counseling? If not it is important you do get help. My daughter struggled with cutting for a while. After, counseling, we found out why she was cutting. It is a relief from the darkness and pain, but it is only a temporary and harmful relief. She learned healthy strategies to deal with her pain and frustration and was able to heal over time. Please seek counseling. This group is an online group that could be helpful for you. bit.ly/2DS3v7S By the way, you are beautiful and I just wanted to say I am so happy you are reaching out on this forum. Everyone here is so encouraging and supportive. We want you to know you are not alone and we are here for you. Hugs!

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thank you so much i will try it out.hugs!

[Jesselyn]

I used to be a cutter and have some very bad scars. I dont cover them except for work. I look at them as a testimony of what I've been through and how far i've come. If people look at them I never notice it. When I was young I hid my cuts though.. I didn't like the kind of attention they brought me. A family that hasnt suffered like you may have a hard time with the attention they think it will bring and maybe they want to protect you from it? I agree you should sit and let them explain why it bothers them when you dont hide them, you may be surprised at the reasons why.