Nothing is fair

I feel like im being too optimistic, being too hopeful about all the things i want to accomplish before the year is over, and when i can't reach these goals im afraid of how i will react to being a failure. I won't be able to handle it well

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Hey...

You will say, at least I tried.

But keep that optimism and the hope and you know what, you won’t fail,

All the very best to you...🌺🌼🌺🌼

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Im exhausted of saying 'at least i tried' lifeis literally passing me by, i am extremely hopeful that this year is it and maybe that's an issue

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Well I’m rooting for you !

🌺🌼🌺🌼

[thatjuanguy]

You can never have too much hope just don’t forget to count the small accomplishments too they matter and even if you don’t accomplish everything you will have accomplished some things that’s progress you can always do better next time and never forget that even just trying is an accomplishment.

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I agree with everything you just said, i just really want at least one huge accomplishment

[thatjuanguy in reply to Hidden]

You have one because you haven’t given up

[Strongheartforever]

This may sound counterintuitive but lower your expectations and break the goals down into smaller parts that can really be done. You’re brain can handle one thing at a time. Think of an elephant.... now think of a flower.... now think of a tiger.... see just one thing at a time. Boom then check them off, check, check, check... slow and steady wins the race.

[Hidden in reply to Strongheartforever]

I did make a check list, i would be a happy camper if i can make it to school this year, that is the main goal

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I think any rationale person doesn’t like to fail. Being realistic is the best way to cope with failure. The old saying expect less gain more is a good balance to strike when setting goals. Set your goals but keep a healthy mindset about them. Look at all your successes even in failure their is always the success of finding out that you need to try something different. If you didn’t try how would you know if an idea would work or not? If you are feeling overwhelmed by the amount of goals you are setting write them all down and spend a few days thinking about the ones you most want to accomplish and ones that can wait.

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I did write them down, i know it's not possible to accomplish all of them but i will be happy with just one, going back to school

[Agora1 in reply to Hidden]

Always remember Danielle, that "big things" have "small beginnings" When we are constantly projecting down the road, we forget to live in the moment. I see the accomplishments of the young woman in you who has taken steps in going forward in the year 2018.

You tried and never gave up with those walks to the park. That was the beginning of you going forward. From there to having a job at the Library. Danielle you did more in 6 months than most people do in years. You challenged yourself and won. Getting to the top of the mountain is all about small steps. The goal will be the same.

I'm so proud of who you are and how far you have gone. Hugs, Agora xx

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You're right i did made a lot of progress this year, i feel like im losing time Agora, my therapist said school isn't going nowhere but that's all i want, with all my heart and i admit im being obsessive over it and don't know how to stop

[Agora1 in reply to Hidden]

When you are ready and the time is right for you, there will be no hesitation in whatever you want to do in life. xx

[bridder01 in reply to Agora1]

"Tall trees from little acorns grow."

I wonder who said that? lol

[bridder01]

Danielle, it's ok to fail. Better to have tried and failed than never to have tried at all. And who knows, sometimes the best lessons we learn come from failure. After all, how much do we really learn when we succeed? We're like "Yay! I succeeded!" lol In the end, you have to take the bitter with the sweet. That's how we grow! Stay positive and know you've got lots of support here to help you cope

Your friend,

Brian

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I have failed a bunch of times but also made a lot of progress especially this year, maybe that's why my hopes are so high

[bridder01 in reply to Hidden]

Then awesome! It's ok to shoot for the moon. Just remember that not every shot is gonna hit lol. One thing I've learned is to set incremental goals. What that means is to make small goals that will ultimately lead to your end goal. It helps to make your ultimate goal seem more easily reachable. Think of it as taking a flight of stairs in your home or in a mall. You're gonna get to the top eventually, but you have to go one step at a time. And don't forget to give yourself a little reward for each goal you achieve. It can provide motivation and incentive to work harder for your ultimate goal. You can do it! I've got faith in ya

Your friend,

Brian

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Lol rip robin

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Ah loved him ❤️

[-Poetic2]

Why not do yourself a favor and put off half of these goals for 2019? The goal is success. It builds on itself. I think. You succeed with x number of goals for 2018then imagine how happy and enthusiastic you can be in2019. Just saying...

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That probably would be the sane thing to do but I'm not sure i can especially since i have been stuck trying to make these things turn into reality, i don't think im mentally capable to wait yet another year

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Always a pleasure chatting with you Matt. And thank you 🌻

[old-soul]

Hey Danielle. I think maybe optimism and pessimism are compatible and healthy, if I keep humility as an equally strong leg on my own "three legged stool," type philosophy. That allows me to also be reasonable.

I really think you're smarter than you know, and you are QUICKLY finding that balance that is going to allow you accomplish AMAZING things, as well as have time to enjoy them. believe that in my heart.

I also believe that your birthday this year will be better than the last, because:

1- You are seeking out people that want to see you succeed, (like coming here as one obvious example)

2- Because you are exploring your own heart honestly

3- You give yourself permission to adjust as you go along and try new ideas.

Maybe excessive expectations (or demands), can lead to an early grave, even if the body is still alive.

I mean, sure, you were on suicide watch *last year*, and maybe it's becasue you felt dead, or devoid in your heart. I know that's when I start to "play with the toys in the attic (my mind) that have me wanting to end myself. I have been in that dark corner many times.

So, maybe the feelings had last year are similar for you when you find yourself in that same "dead would at least end the pain" place we have both been.

I hope my post doesn't embarrass you, but the "Like" button doesn't actually SAY, "I think you're right on track, and here's why I BELIEVE you are not only going to be okay, but are going to find real happiness in life."

Useless "like" button. Pfft.

I don't know when your birthday is, but this is your "virtual birthday card" from me to you, so don't read this until your birthday actually comes.

Oops! You already read it, hu? I need to plan ahead better.

[RaqXo]

Hey! That’s where I am at. I failed at something recently and I’ve been down here and there. But I have to remember not everything goes as planned and everyone fails at something. Trying to have self compassion for myself. Keep being optimistic! You’re such a wonderful person!