Not doing very well

[Chav_a143]

I guess I’m just writing this to blow of some steam or get stuff off my chest but I’ve been doing really bad lately and my roommates haven’t made it any better (I’m in college) we were supposed to go to this barbecue at a lake together and she basically said my friends car is too crammed to take you find another ride and then just left when it was already too late for me to find another ride. And she and my future roommate always hangout and never invite me but like why do you not want to hang out with someone you are gonna room with? Idk it’s just weird to me and makes me feel like I’m not even there and that I don’t matter? I know this just sounds dumb but it makes me feel like crap and isn’t making my depression any better.

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Don’t let your self worth be dictated by others. I would keep these friends at arms length. It sounds like they are keeping you around because you are easy to control and thus in their eyes good room mate material. Concentrate on your studies. Tough it out with them till you are done with college. Once you have a job you will make friends that aren’t looking to use you.

[1OshunDreamer]

They don't sound like "friends" to me. Is it really worth your time to try to be their friend? Maybe you should just be a roommate. I know that sounds corny but I went through something similar a long time ago. I just stopped trying to be friends with those people. I found real friends through the years and they are really great people.

[sunandbutterflies]

Hello Alex, You matter. Your value is more than what other people say about you. Made in the image of God, His creation. It can be really easy to see ourselves through the eyes of others or to attach our value to the things that people say and the time that they are willing to spend with us. Sometimes, creating healthy boundaries helps. (I would be glad to send you a link to a podcast that might be helpful). Also Boundaries by Dr Henry Cloud might be a good resource for you to check into. I would also recommend volunteering. It is a good way to get connected with other people as well as serve the people around you. Hope that helps!