Outside in

[RAB888]

Hi

I thought I would just ask if anyone here knows where their experience comes from.

What causes your anxiety/depression?

What causes your feelings? 😊

[Hidden]

I think it came from my parents divorce!! Then 29 years ago I lost my mom & gave birth to my 3rd child & went into post partum , sorry spelling, depression, been dealing with it for a long time!!!

[RAB888 in reply to Hidden]

Have you ever been told that there is a way that you can be free of the anxiety/depression?

[Hidden in reply to RAB888]

No I was told I'll probably deal with it the rest of my life....I suppose life could be much worse!!!

[RAB888 in reply to Hidden]

I can tell you that you don't have to suffer the rest of your life.

Modern therapies (over 400 ) are based on an 'outside in' way of trying to deal with people's issues( and they don't always work, otherwise we would have less people needing help)

There is a new cutting edge approach in psychology that educates people from the 'inside out

[Hidden in reply to RAB888]

Thank you!!!

[RAB888 in reply to Hidden]

I used to suffer with anxiety and depression, I've had times when I suffered with trouble sleeping, and times of extreme stress....but now I feel calmer, and more resilient to overcome life's challenges

[Hidden]

I see you have had an experience yourself.. What was your causes and how did you overcome your experience?

[RAB888 in reply to Hidden]

I have learnt to let go.

Depression is living (thinking) in the past.

Anxiety is living (thinking) in the future

True happiness and mental health and wellbeing is learning to live in the here and now

There is a new approach in psychology that teaches us where all human experience comes from

I am no longer depressed or anxious and now have the resilience to overcome life challenges

[Hidden in reply to RAB888]

I'm so happy for you!!!! I'm going to keep working on myself, never going to give up!!!

[RAB888 in reply to Hidden]

Want to know how you can do the same?

[gerg]

I have traced my issues back to an event that is a possible source. I think that there is also genetic and learned components to my anxiety. I think that my depression is caused by my anxiety disorder and the low self esteem that it has caused, but there is also the possibility that the depression is a stand alone problem.

I think that my life is a stew of experiences that is impossible to sort into individual experiences. This being said, I don’t think that I could ever find the singular cause for anything. If I could change even a single perception of any one event, my entire life would be completely different. Everything would have changed from that moment on.

This all relates to my work on acceptance. I can not change my past, nor would I want to. I want to live the best possible life I can today.

[Hidden in reply to gerg]

Nicely said..I can relate and agree..seems like Rab888 has something to share with us though..

[RAB888 in reply to Hidden]

There is no need to look in the past to find a 'cause' of our 'problems '.

It doesn't matter what has happened in the past, it's true we can't change it.

We have 60-90,000 thoughts a day, so to try and look for one that may have caused anything is almost impossible

Understanding the nature of thought is key

[mdowning81]

I'm cant really pinpoint any one thing that has triggered this episode, but my therapist seems to believe that it was a year of very stressful events compiling on one another until finally my body and mind needed a break then my reaction to this is what has kept me in the anxiety cycle which has then caused me to feel depressed. I am trying to change my own thought patterns and how much validation I give them but it is hard to do

[RAB888 in reply to mdowning81]

There is a simple understanding of where the human experience comes from that can, once you get it, not only help you overcome your anxiety and depression but leave you enjoying your life, motivated to do what makes you really happy, and ultimately having a peace of mind

[AZ1970]

From my childhood. I am reading a book by Pete Walker about C-PTSD. It is giving me such good insight into my beliefs about myself and the world that feed my anxiety and depression.

[RAB888 in reply to AZ1970]

Hi

You can get insights without reading a book, from within, that can not only realise that all your anxiety and depression are 'made up' , but can get you to a place where you can have peace of mind

[AZ1970 in reply to RAB888]

With all due respect, I am glad you have found a path that works for you. My path is working for me. Please be mindful that my journey is my own. Thank you.

[RAB888 in reply to AZ1970]

Hey, of course, your life is your life, you live it anyway you want, I was just trying to help

[Robinrenae in reply to RAB888]

Can you tell me how you get to that place? Would you mind explaining how you got there? Thank you in advance.

[gerg in reply to Robinrenae]

The path to my place has been through honesty via rational thought.

[RAB888 in reply to Robinrenae]

The way to get to a better place in life is to realise that you have suffered enough, and that you really 'want' to change from being mostly unhappy with your life and you know deep down life should be full of joyful experiences and memories, not just sadness, tiredness, looking for happiness and never finding it.

Since coming across this new understanding of where our experience really comes from I am no longer full of anxiety, or depressed or stressed out like I used to be.

[gerg in reply to RAB888]

Things are not good or bad, it is the view that we wish to take of them that makes them so.

Our perspective is what needs to change when we find that it is not serving us. I am in control of how I interpret my world. I make every experience what it is.

[RAB888 in reply to gerg]

Wow. A wise response. Have you had an enlightenment experience ?

[gerg in reply to RAB888]

Very much so, but you are the only one that I have told.

[RAB888 in reply to gerg]

👍🏼😎

[shirlloulou]

feel so isolated thats making me go crazy, its started since i had my children now im depressed every day because i worry too much about their well being and my health is suffering i have aches and pains most days and feellike im going to snuff it and its so frightning as know one understands my feelings.