advice needed

[PessimisticOptimist]

This isn't directly related to my anxiety, more like PTSD. I've been sexually harassed and assaulted in the past, when I was a little girl and it's affected me in terms of intimacy. Last night when my boyfriend was touching upon the topic of intimacy I started to cry and I'm kind of avoiding him now. How do I get over this?

[Hidden]

Hi.

So Sorry to hear of your struggles.

Have you had therapy for how you feel. It would be a good thing to do that and talk about it. If you are in uk you can approach ‘talking therapies’ in your area,either by self referral online or via your gp. There is a wait list, depending on your area,so good to get on that as soon as poss.

Talking to your boyfriend may help a lot and explaining, although I realise that’s easier said than done.

Hope you get a lot more guidance in replies on here too.

I wish you well 🌺🌺🌺

[PessimisticOptimist in reply to Hidden]

I live in Pakistan...we don't have good facilities for therapy here. But thank you for helping. I did tell him but he doesn't really have the right thing to say

[Hidden in reply to PessimisticOptimist]

Ah I’m so sorry I know it’s not easy, I wonder if there is anywhere you could get some print offs or leaflets that you could perhaps give to your boyfriend to help him..

Some forums have them, not sure what’s available on this forum to print off. Certainly ‘mind’ may have something in the way of leaflets to print off, with a look

mind.org.uk/information-sup...

[fauxartist]

Have you talked to your boyfriend about what triggers you when it comes to intimacy....and I know I had to go through therapy to get in touch with de-sensitising or de-fusing triggers if you will when it came to intimacy.

[PessimisticOptimist in reply to fauxartist]

I have but he isn't really helping tbh. I mean he cares and all but he just doesn't know what the right thing to say would be

[fauxartist in reply to PessimisticOptimist]

if you are in therapy, you may want to talk to your therapist and see if they would be open to having a session with the both of you so your boyfriend can have some questions answered and there would be clarity around your issues...it may help.