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My boyfriend and I have been together for four years. We’ve had our fair share of ups and downs and have always worked through it. Lately my mental health has deteriorated exponentially. I feel the best thing for us, and mainly for him, is to take a break. I know how hard it can be on him when he can’t fix me or make me feel better and I feel like I need to figure out my illness on my own. But I don’t want to hurt him by suggesting a break... what should I do?

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Agora1

Garben, I agree with you in that a break is necessary at this time. You are no good to anyone if you don't fix yourself first. After 4 years, hopefully you both can sit down and talk this out with no hard feelings. Anxiety is very difficult for others to understand but I think you will be okay because your man cares. Good Luck in taking care of yourself. Remember we are here to help you through. xx

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Starrlight in reply toAgora1

I think you should tell him exactly what you said here. Best to you.

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Forestina

I do so understand. I have pushed many away when I am at my lowest ebb. You can only do what you feel is right for you. Please however just consider this. You may feel differently when you are feeling stronger and in a better place. Maybe now is not the best time for making a decision on something which may be irrevocable.

Secondly I think it has to be his decision. Have you thought that he may love you too much to leave.

Might a possible solution be to sit down and talk. If that is too hard could you not write your feelings down and hand it to him?

Please consider carefully. I wish you strength and peace.

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Garben in reply toForestina

I don’t think that this break would be permanent. It’s more for him so he doesn’t need to stress about trying to fix me and allow me to work on myself and not have to worry about keeping him happy as well. I don’t think it would last more than a month but that would give me a chance to work on myself.

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Forestina

I am sure you will do what is best for you.

I shall be thinking of you. Good luck.

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Susan512

Garben if your boyfriend like to help you please let him help don't just break up with him if he wants to be there for you let him, it helps when someone is around specially if they're willing 🙏💜

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