Evenings

[Michael8072]

Hey everyone

Lately I can't stand the evenings. Works over and its like relaxes mode but the thoughts just continue to swirl through my head. It just makes me sad. I know I gotta make changes. It just seems like there's so much to do. It's like trying to dig myself out of the hole but I'm only digging it deeper. I just get so tired then by the time my day off is its just a struggle cause i just wanna chill and not do anything. It's a never ending circle.

I think about having a drink but I know that's not the answer. Haven't drank since my birthday. I just wanna stop thinking about past stuff forgive myself and move forward. Why is it so hard to do that.

[Ayla-Kat]

Hi, Michael. What about distractions like reading a book, watching favorite show or movies or video games. Someone told me that it's ok to distract yourself because our brains need a break from worrying . Or maybe hobby

Or exercise . Maybe that's easier said than done . I distract a lot because I will worry myself sick.

And since you are going to therapy, consider that you are working on it during a structured time. You deserve to relax after a long day at work.

I was playing Candy Crush because I was getting sick being worried. Oh another thing is Pinterest. I make dream boards of things I would like in my life. So how you said you wanted a place with animals . You can make a board of all the types of bunnies you like . I have a board all about cute animals . I also have dream house board. It's fun to pass the time

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I hope you are able to find enjoyable distractions. Just think of it as a brain break. Please forgive yourself . You are of value and a resilient person.

Hugs and healing

😻 Ayla-Kat

[Michael8072 in reply to Ayla-Kat]

Thank you Ayla-Kat!

Maybe i will try Pinterest at some point. I didn't know they had things like that. I could give that a try.

I try to distract myself with shows on netflixs or Amazon but it doesn't last long. Comedy shows for the laugh but I'm back to thinking soon after.

Thank you for the kind words and activities. I do love animals!

Hugs healing back.

[Ayla-Kat in reply to Michael8072]

Oh.. I was wondering Michael. Could you have a small pet like a hamster or goldfish at your place? Just asking since you love animals.

Have a good evening!

[Michael8072 in reply to Ayla-Kat]

I could. But I'm waiting to be able to afford and properly take care of a pet. Money wise and what not. I'd really like a dog. My childhood dog was such a joy and a big part of my life. I would like that feeling again.

I hope your day and evening have been goimg well!

[Ayla-Kat in reply to Michael8072]

Aww, I love it! A boy and his dog😍 you are responsible thinking about all it entails to have a pet.

[Michael8072 in reply to Ayla-Kat]

Sounds like a wonderful book and story title! Full of adventures and fun!

[Rpan]

It sounds like your ruminating. That’s when we try to think our way out of this discomfort. It just doesn’t work, let me rephrase, it never worked for me. The more I think the more upset i get. It’s because the thought don’t end with a satisfying resolution. The more I try the more confusing things get. Hobbies don’t work for me, others find it helpful. Exercise ( 60 minutes of cardio at 80% max target HR works) journaling, meditation, no sugar, no caffeine, little to no carbs,daily teachings. It’s about adding positive,uplifting, things. There is so much to learn.

Forgiving yourself will come when you learn how to manage your feelings. Managing our feelings takes work, by learning other tools to sooth ourselves( without alcohol) You become the work shop..

[Michael8072 in reply to Rpan]

I get it. It's a lot to change when you've been doing the wrong things for so long. Patience and understanding set backs.