just phobias

[chili]

One of my good friends started changing drastically, she has started to ignore me, and generally be more rude to me when i do something that she thinks is strange.

This is a somewhat large issue for me, because most of the friendships i've had is where my friend always judges me, so it's making me rather anxious, that everything repeats and makes me land into a semi-depression.

And because of my fear of loneliness, i dont want to say anything, since im afraid that that will drive her away from me, making me suffer an unnecessary amount.

[Diana_s]

Hey,

I saw your post and I just had to say this. I've been through a similar situation and I think the best option is to talk to her and try to explain how you feel. You say you're good friends so I think she will understand if you tell her calmly. Staying friends with her like this while her behaviour makes you anxious isn't what I think will make you feel better in the end. I really get that you don't want to feel lonely, but if she cares about you and you tell her I think she will change her behaviour and you don't have to feel lonely nor anxious. And if she doesn't then you're better off without her, because then she's not a good friend, you deserve that, everyone deserves a good friend, don't let people treat you badly. If that's the case you'll find real friends who care about you and make you feel happy.

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So you want to stay friends even though they judge you, do they not accept you for the way you are?

[hypercat54]

Hi friends don't judge you and make you feel inferior so I suggest you ditch those who do and seek others who will support you instead.

What right has your 'friend' to judge you or anyone? Ask her if she is perfect. If you let people get away with treating you like this then they will continue and it will get worse.

My advice is to give her her marching orders! x