Relationships

[t_nguyen701]

Has anyone ever ended a romantic relationship bc they felt overwhelmed being in one? I recently just ended mine bc I thought I didn't have a future with her, but I think it was the anxiety talking at the time. Now, I feel lonely but too anxious to be with anyone. She's been on my mind and I feel like reaching out to her and telling her about my struggles bc she doesn't know, but that gives me anxiety in itself bc IDK what the outcome will be (fear of rejection or disbelief that I struggle with anxiety/ depression). If she does decide to take me back, I don't want to be a burden on her cause as you all know, people who struggle with this can be unpleasant at times, if not, most of the time. This has been on my mind lately, just wondering what you guys think.

[fauxartist]

maybe give yourself a break and just see your friend to talk to her and share all these things you just said with her...tell her truthfully. and if it brings clarity or closure...that's up to her..but ask yourself truthfully if this is the best time in your life to be in a relationship, maybe you need to get a handle on your anxiety stuff, have you been to a therapist?...

[t_nguyen701 in reply to fauxartist]

Yes, my first visit was this past Weds.

[fauxartist in reply to t_nguyen701]

then just take it easy on yourself until you've had some time to work on you and get some clarity about your stuff....it's a work in progress...it gets better....and when we feel better...be make better choices..... being in a relationship because you feel lonely may not always be a good idea... maybe you can be friends with your ex- and tell her whats going on in your life...

[t_nguyen701 in reply to fauxartist]

Thanks fauxartist, I think you're onto something. I'm also going through a transition of career as well and will be going back to school to get a Masters in Edu to teach. I'm already feeling very overwhelmed as it is, so i think your advice offers alot of perspective. Thank you.