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I am a 30 year old female. I joined today because I need to talk

about anxiety and depression with someone else other than my husband. It feels like I am a burden on him sometimes and I think he resents me a little bit. I started anti depressants 5 months ago. I want to wean myself off. It makes me more anxious than I already was. Any thoughts or suggestions?

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torresvee38

I weaned off my medication a while ago, but I will be seeing the doctor soon since I’ve gotten so much worse. I’ve tried natural and other alternatives (which I will still be doing) I feel like my spouse may feel the same. It’s a horrible feeling. Do you have any outlets; crafts, hobbies? Do you find any other treatment works a bit? I’m going full torpedo tryin any and everything. I’m looking into journaling and hobbies more.

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Doglover87 in reply to torresvee38

I go the the gym. But even then i find excuses not to go like I'm tired or I need to be home for my spouse and child. I will try to go back at least twice a week to start though.. I used to play guitar.. hiking.. nature.. yoga stretches in the morning help me sometimes... I'm in the same boat as you

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Byelka

Talk to your doctor about weaning off and consider other medications if the one your on isn't working for you. Some anti depressants work well for anxiety and others don't. Do you see a counselor in addition to your psychiatrist? That may help to. I can relate to how you're feeling with your husband. I sometimes feel that way too. Sometimes I wonder if it's all in my head though. I'm glad you're here and you're sharing! Stay in touch.

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Doglover87 in reply to Byelka

I have suffered most of my life with some sort of depression/aniexty. I just started taking meds to get out of the crisis mode. Now that I am out of it I don't want to be on any meds. I have been to one psychiatrist after my post partum but he discharged me because by the time I saw him it was a year after my pregnancy and said it wasn't considered post partum any more. I was in a therapy group but had to quit due to work. So I've been through the ropes therapy can work but I didn't find they told me anything I already didn't know.

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Byelka in reply to Doglover87

I'm surprised your doctor discharged you simply because of how long it's been since delivery. I've had some training in postpartum depression for my job and I've learned that the outcomes of postpartum mood disorders can last longer than the postpartum period. If that were me I would have felt really rejected, like my problems weren't valid. What your feeling IS valid. You said you used to go on hikes, do yoga, etc. Do you still do these things?

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Doglover87 in reply to Byelka

I'm trying to now that the weather is nice

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FinnPanda

I feel the same as you with my fiancé. I don’t know how much longer he can listen to me and my thoughts anymore, he told me yesterday that this is getting exhausting for him. So just like you, I’m hoping to find help from here so that I don’t have to take everything out on him.

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torresvee38 in reply to FinnPanda

I’m sorry to hear that. 😞

I read it on him very clearly. And he really is the only support I have. Which is why Im reaching out for support here. My biggest comfort and support used to be my ferret, my fur baby. He was my life. He died 3 years ago, which is about the time I started to see drastic changes in myself. Ive thought of adopting a new baby, however, I rent my condo and I work so much, it wouldn’t be fair.

I’m glad to know we’re not alone, and if you ever need to vent please, I am here. I work overnights so even if you’re up very late.

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Doglover87 in reply to torresvee38

I work a split shift so I am also up late and up early lol feel free to vent anytime

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FinnPanda in reply to torresvee38

Oh no that’s awful I’m so sorry to hear that!

Yeah, he was the one who pushed me to get help (which I’ll be forever grateful) and has been there for me since day one, and all of sudden it’s too much. So I feel like the only person I can really trust and lean on is getting tired of me so I don’t know what to do. But talking to you have been really helpful already so same to you, I don’t know if we’re on a different country/time zone but I’ll always be here for you if you need to talk.

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Doglover87

We are all in the same boat! So you don't have to feel guilty here :) I'm here to listen too!

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t_nguyen701

Hi Kgreene58,

I just realized that I struggle with anxiety and depression, but I wouldn't say its out of hand...YET. I'd like to address it ASAP before it does. Today I'm going to see a psychologist for the first time to see if he can hopefully help me with my struggles. I have a few concerns about medication because I am one of those people who are against putting anything into my body that isn't natural. My question to you is: did you think you needed medication prior to taking it? (obv you did on some level) I guess a more appropriate question is do you regret taking them? Was the anxiety/ depression so out of hand that you needed to be on meds?

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Doglover87 in reply to t_nguyen701

The medication for me helped get out of crisis mode. I was miserable at work miserable at home... I was not myself. So I eventually increaed to 1 and a half tablets which is 15 kilograms I believe. It works however since I have been on this medication I feel like I'm in a haze

Sometimes it's hard to focus and I feel like I have ADD. So I am currently on one tablet and I'm starting to feel like my old self again.

So in the end it's up to you. I'm like you I don't like taking pills. Either way just think if it helps you it can't be that bad . I don't regret taking them. If I didn't take them in the first place I don't know where I would be today.

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