Sexuality

[slychichen45]

after years of confusion, I have finally come to terms with my sexuality, I gay which I do have to say I'm proud to say except when it comes to my parents who are very religious which means they see it as a sin and that being gay is a chose I want to be able to come out to them and bring a boy home to meat them but this just seems impossible....I mean being gay I actually vary natural it is seen all over the animal kingdom but what ever lol

[CazO46]

Hi, I'm glad for you that you are happy to accept all the things that make you... you. I know not everyone agrees but my own view is that it's perfectly OK to love someone of the same sex. You know your parents better than anyone so perhaps you need to think carefully what is the best way to tell them. You could write down what you want to say and practice. I'm sure they love you and it may rock the boat but life is never straight forward or without its challenges. It might take them some time to adjust but perhaps in time they might accept you bringing someone home. It might be hard but living a life that is not true to yourself will probably be harder. Take care, good luck X

[fauxartist in reply to CazO46]

I agree completely CazO46....and it's also important to remember that many who have come out to their parents get ostracised and it's sadly what many in the gay community have to live with...so they have formed their own loving family. No matter what, be true to yourself.

[Hidden in reply to fauxartist]

That's true..

[Hidden in reply to CazO46]

I put it this way..it's their house, its their rules..I wouldnt be raising anything up about your status unless you know you can converse with them about it and get support...you need to look after yourself..don't get yourself into living a double life..Its.double the trouble..your best finding your own roof and yes, need to be true to yourself...

[fauxartist]

I'm glad your in touch with what comes naturally to you...and I would tell you that maybe don't expect your parents to understand. First off...who would choose a lifestyle which is still today being prejudiced against openly in certain society's. Country's have laws against prejudice in the work place against sexual harassment , or gender and race, and religious beliefs. Yet you can still be fired from jobs, and openly harassed if your gay. So if your parents are of a religion that does not accept your lifestyle...then live your life the way you want to ...but don't expect them to change...you'll just get hurt. It's nobody's business how you choose to live your life, or who you choose to live it with...just surround yourself with friends that are accepting and open to you....

[CazO46 in reply to fauxartist]

I agree, progress in equality is being made but still a way to go. I can't fault anyone for having their own beliefs but I think it would be nice if we could all find it in our hearts to be a little more compassionate and accepting of difference. Your post puts it beautifully... surround yourself with friends who accept you xx