I don't even know how to feel anymore...I feel numb...

I feel that I'm not depressed but that I don't feel the same as I used to and I'm not sure how to feel anymore. Sometimes I want to cry but I can't feel the tears. I don't even know what to say to my friends anymore. My best friend is in love with me and I can't seem to figure it out. I am a mess and on top of that I am dating someone that I don't love. How can I fix this... My anxiety is all over the place. I'm facing my fear straight on and I can't fight back anymore. I need help.

[gerg]

Your description of how you are feeling sounds like depression. Depression is a lack of emotion, the big blah. Depression doesn’t mean that you are feeling sad, I describe it as feeling down. Confusion is a common problem when depressed. Sometimes I can’t even finish a thought or a sentence.

The way that I deal with my depression is to accept that I am depressed and accept that it will pass. I hope you start feeling better.

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thank you I will try

[brightbronzexo]

You don't have to take my advice, but I definitely think you should not be dating someone u truly have no feelings for, you are only going to hurt them more in the long run and just waste time and energy. If it's something u truly don't want to do gather up the courage and just end it. Maybe that relationship is adding to the depression u think u have. And plus when you are single you may truly have the chance to improve on yourself and get your life together. You just have to put it in your mind to stay focused on you and battling your demons

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thank you I understand now

[SebastianMax]

Using a vague language won't help you. You need to FOCUS on the things that are generating these feelings

"How can i fix THIS?"

Fix WHAT specifically?

"I can't seem to figure IT out?"

Figure WHAT out?

"I am a mess"

Are you "a mess" in EVERYTHING or in a couple of things that are important to you?

Are there things in your life where you are NOT a mess?

Where specifically do you consider yourself to be "a mess"?

What information are you using to determine that you "are a mess"?

"I am dating someone that i don't love"

Isn't the whole purpose of dating to find if you're compatible with the person that you like/love?(why are you dating someone you don't have feelings for?)

Your anxiety/fear is not the issue here. These feelings are NOT the problem, these feelings are trying to guide you to solve the REAL PROBLEM.

Make a list of the things that are making you feel bad. (BE AS DETAILED AS YOU CAN)

And ask yourself these questions:

Why is this thing making me feel bad?

What am i focusing on when i feel this way?

How is thing affecting my life?/How will this thing affect my life?

What do i want?

What do i have to do to get want i want?

Remember:

*Be as detailed as possible.

*This is a process, you probably won't get everything done in one step. The important thing here is to tackle ONE THING AT A TIME. Don't try to focus on everything/get everything done at the same time, because you'll only get overwhelmed and you won't solve anything. ONE THING AT A TIME.

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thank you