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[Strugglingbetter]

Hi, this is my first post, I have just read through post and tried to get a feel if this kind of support group could help me. I believe it could be. I am a mom of 2 and married to a man who, I feel, doesn't think I care about him or what he is goes through. I do struggle EVERYDAY but my kids pull me to a place to be able to move through the day. I feel like I can't do anything right when it comes to my marriage and some times like what's the point and I hate that. I really wish I knew how to make everyday easier and not HAVE to be pulled to a place to just get through the day but to enjoy it.

[Strugglingbetter]

Mainly it's the struggle between my husband and myself. He doesn't hear me when I speak to him. All he hears is bitching or nagging or something that annoys him.

[fauxartist]

You can loose yourself in someone else's problems...and forget about what it was that makes you happy....we are not responsible for someone else's happiness. No matter how hard we try, or what we do, we cannot make anyone happy unless they want to be. I would suggest you stop trying...and talk to your husband. Ask him why he is so un-happy, and let him know your just tired and frustrated trying. Your not a mind reader, you don't know what he wants or is thinking unless he tells you. Try to focus a bit more on yourself and your kids will let you know what they need. But get back in touch with your own needs as well. Sometimes we can work things out in a relationship, sometimes we move on. Either way...if your unhappy and they are unhappy...it only gets worse.

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Boy did you get that one right! Hugs!!!

[Rpan]

It only takes one person, working on themselves, to shift a relationship. It sounds like you both are having issues, which I think commonly happens in a marriage. It’s best to focus on yourself, your fears and successes. Be aware of how you communicate towards your spouse. Take notice when you accomplish tasks with your kids, those tasks are milestones. Taking care of two kids is very stressful, and deserves a lot of credit. Give yourself credit for what you are able to do! As far as caring for your spouse, he is struggling with the change in his life ( two children) that is his struggle. Reassure him that he is loved and give him time to deal with his own feelings. You feeling like you can’t do “anything right” just is a false belief.

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Hi Strugglingbetter ~~ This is something i've never been thru (I've never married or had kids). As for what's going on between you & your husband, I don't have a clue as to advice or anything ~~ but I want you to know I support you & I hope this gets better for you... Wow, I feel for you. <3 You can consider me a friend xx