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Wrong place; Wrong Time

DustinS85
DustinS85

Ever feel like you were born in the wrong time, or wrong country? I live in a country that doesn't appreciate education and knowledge. The more info you know; the more likely people are to call you a "know it all" or run you down. If you aren't a good little worker robot; then you are a loser piece of shit in this country and time. It doesn't matter what your dreams are, it doesn't matter what you know, it doesn't matter what your passions are, it doesn't matter who you are inside, because you aren't a good little cog in the machine. If I got drunk and partied I'd be much more accepted than I am. It's such a weird time and place I live in.

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What country do you live in? x

DustinS85
DustinS85 in reply to hypercat54

USA

DustinS85
DustinS85 in reply to hypercat54

Ohio

Cleveland?

hmmmm i think it is more like the wrong mindset. those people calling you a know it all are in a mindset that they are not able to attend school and get a higher education. those people that call you a loser are just trying to keep you from achieving a higher status than they have. if the people you hang out with are not accepting you for who you are, are you hanging out with the right people?

DustinS85
DustinS85 in reply to EmLee96

Where I live; there aren't many people who are like me and love knowledge and what not like me. To find someone to have an honest intellectual discussion with around here is slim. I am also living in poverty which makes that even more unlikely.

EmLee96
EmLee96 in reply to DustinS85

ah that is where the whole cycle-of-poverty-mindset comes into play. unfortunately that is something that our country needs to work on. there are some people that think because they come from poverty they must stay in poverty and so make the choices that reflect that mindset because they do not strive to do better... then there are others who want to do better but are forced to stay in poverty due to circumstances they cannot control (family, finances, etc.) there are others who actually achieve their own goals and can do better but still choose to live in poverty because they are afraid of change. and then there are those who are successful and take the challenge of stepping out of the poverty zone.

DustinS85
DustinS85 in reply to EmLee96

Mine would be the second. I can't pretend that I didn't make bad choices along the way. I am positive that I have. I can say that the corporate lifestyle doesn't fit me. I want to be my own boss (as far as work goes). As for friends; I made the choice in high school in my teens (I'm 32 now) to impress friends as opposed to study. I now love knowledge. I love intellectual stimulation, and I want to connect with others who share the same interests, but I fail to find them around me. Most around me self-medicate with alcohol and drugs and party; and I don't like that at all.

Oh I would have thought Americans valued education and learning etc? Maybe you are in the wrong social circle? Can you find others who have the same interests as yourself? x

DustinS85
DustinS85 in reply to hypercat54

I replied this to EmLee96, but it fits here too: Where I live; there aren't many people who are like me and love knowledge and what not like me. To find someone to have an honest intellectual discussion with around here is slim. I am also living in poverty which makes that even more unlikely.

hypercat54
hypercat54 in reply to DustinS85

Yes being very short of money can make life difficult. I find the same thing where I am living but do have a couple of more intellectual friends. Not that I am academic really but I do love intelligent debates and exchanges of ideas. I love open minded people best who aren't dogmatic about their views.

I always remember the quote by Mark Twain - 'Never debate with stupid people coz they will drag you down to their level and beat you with experience'. I find that so many people do that and make any debate personal. It's very annoying. x

DustinS85
DustinS85 in reply to hypercat54

Agreed. I also like Bertrand Russell's quote: "The trouble with the world is that the stupid are cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt."

hypercat54
hypercat54 in reply to DustinS85

Never heard that before and will remember that. Thank you. x

gerg
gerg in reply to DustinS85

The smarter I get, the more I learn how little I know.

People are smart in different ways. Tune into them and you may learn more than you ever thought possible.

I have had the fortune of meeting some really smart “stoopid people”, and I have met some super stoopid “smart people”.

DustinS85
DustinS85 in reply to gerg

"The smarter I get, the more I learn how little I know."

100% true, and I love it! It opens so much more info and treasure troves of information that you couldn't even begin making a scratch in the surface of. I LOVE IT!

gerg
gerg in reply to DustinS85

Ha, my replies make me sound like a fortune cookie writer...

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DustinS85
DustinS85 in reply to Hidden

While I do agree that people who are dismissive of you simply due to degrees is a terrible thing. I wouldn't say that that it could be worse. I have 1 intellectual friend who is autistic and doesn't really like talking or hanging out. The rest of my friends from my teen years are either obsessed with gaming, or obsessed with partying to care to talk about anything of value. I live in an impoverished area; so partying is the name of the game around me...so finding new friends to connect with is very unlikely.

Wrong place, wrong time......Dude, know where you're coming from. There are days when I feel like I don't fit in here. It's like, somehow, I'm running at a slower speed than everyone else.

I could so see myself living in the 1930's...or the 1950's.....they seem like such a simpler time.

But, as the saying goes: "Nice place to visit, but I wouldn't want to live there."

There were just as many problems then, or in any time period, as there are now.

Life can be like the worst roller coaster you can imagine. You never really know what to expect from one minute to the next.....

But! (Dramatic Fanfare here!)

By coming here, you've done something totally unexpected......

Wait for it........

You've found a group of people who struggle with the same feelings you do. Trying to cope the best they can. Taking life as it comes....one day at a time

And the best part of all?

They'll like you for you. No needing to pretend. No need to hide anything. Share as much or as little as you feel like.

"Where Heroes are Tested, and Legends are Made"

Welcome.....we're glad to have you here.

Oh....one last thing....shoes off the coffee table, please. The maid gets fussy when she sees shoeprints on the table lol

Brian :)

DustinS85
DustinS85 in reply to bridder01

LOL

In your impoverished area there are probably some people as intellectual as you, that do a pretty good job of playing the stupid person. I think that a lot of people step-down their game just to blend in. If you are looking for the guy waving a Harvard pennant, you just may be alone for a little while longer.

DustinS85
DustinS85 in reply to gerg

Maybe

gerg
gerg in reply to DustinS85

Ignorance does not come in the water supply.

What are the chances that you could take a geographical area in Ohio and find not one intellectual person in it? (Other than yourself of course).

I always work on the principle that whatever we think or feel it is never unique and many others have done it too. So that makes it inevitable that you will find other intelligent folk nearby. You just have to learn how to find them. x

Sometimes like attracts like if you know what I mean, and of course there are different types of intelligences ( study done in 1997). Are you working now- because you state about living in poverty. Try looking up meet ups if you have not already and you may find more people who have similar interests. People as you know are usually more complicated once one scratches the surface. Perhaps you are looking for new experiences which can add to the flavors or life?

Word! Society sucks balls...

😂

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Hmmm you should check out reincarnation; I am a big believer in it and it would explain why you feel this way, And yes I feel this way too. You have to find the best place where your talents will be valued (even if online) and go for it! Find people that appreciate you for YOU. Maybe join a support group? I died in an accident when I was 6 and was resuscitated. I am now 32. I survived just to live through a hellish life of abuse and trauma, and it's like, Why? Why did I survive for this? I really think I was supposed to die in that accident and I am against artificial life; I believe it is unethical. SO yes I believe I should be anywhere but here. Also I should not have been born. My mom cannot have kids (she was told this by doctors) and she has had I do not know how many miscarriages, but a TON. They have no idea how she had me and her and I both almost died during birth. But we are here my friend, and we on here are all in a dark place and in the same boat so let's just keep rowing on until we sight land and light! I hope this helps you; it is perfectly normal to feel this way. Hugs ; )

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