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so...I have one month to get better

So I leave for a study abroad trip in Spain in about three weeks. Before my panic attack two weeks ago, I was SO excited. Now, with my anxiety still lingering, I am desperate to do anything to at least reduce it or get better control. Ill be in Spain for two months, away from my family so its essential for my happiness there that I can recover as best possible before then. Now, its hard for me to stay overnight in my apartment by myself so I've been staying with my parents. Being across the world for two months will be difficult if I can't improve. Ive made a lot of progress since my initial attack, and haven't had attacks since, just bad uncomfortable waves of anxiety that come and go. I take supplements, have quit caffeine and trying to exercise and eat better more. I have thought about doing some therapy sessions before my trip, and I have heard about CBT. Do any of you suggest it? OR what else can i try?

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I have never had one ever before! I am 21 and it was my first one. My sister had one before but the next morning she felt fine, which I thought would happen to me but instead i kept having anxiety throughout the days. I was having a tough time at work a week before it happened, and I used to drink a lot of coffee and not get much sleep. but I've quit my job, quit caffeine and sleep more so now I don't know how else to get rid of it.

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Rose, I had three major panic attacks leading up to hospital stay over labor day. Thought I was having heart attack or stroke. They told me it could take 2-3 weeks for my heightened senses to come back to normal. Hang in there, distract yourself, and try not to ruminate about the trip.

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Yea thats my main thing, when i get anxious its because I'm anxious about being anxious. I do practice positive self talk but the anxiety still comes. maybe i just need time for my mind and body to go back to normal, hopefully thats it.

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Thats true. I know we can't rush it. and i know panic attacks aren't physically bad for us, its more the uncomfortable-ness and fear i hate about them. I just hope in a months time its possible to recover if I do everything Claire Weekes book says.

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Are you familiar with Claire Weekes' book "Hope and Help for Your Nerves"?

I recommend you get it and bring it with you on your trip. You can see videos on Claire Weekes on YouTube.

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hi! yes, i actually bought it about a week ago, someone else recommended it to me on here. a lot of her techniques do help. but sometimes its hard to tell if I'm truly accepting my anxious feelings or if I'm just telling myself i am? because i still get really scared even when i try not to be, because the feelings are just so uncomfortable.

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I've had panic attacks in the past , and I know what it's like to be SCARED. Really scared. So scared you're sure you're gonna die. THAT scared.

But since I've come out the other side, so to speak, it's perfectly clear what Weekes wants you to do. You'll never master your illness until it doesn't matter whether panic occurs or not. If it happens, you have a plan that will handle it, so there's no need to dread it. Ever.

That's her book in a nutshell. Be sure to take it with you. It can't hurt.

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Do you recommend reading the entire book? Ive read about the first 40 pages.

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I don't have the book anymore, but as I recall it wasn't that long. I know you're in a hurry to read and digest the book, because you want relief right NOW. But the main theme of the book is that you have a method to handle panic attacks should they arise, so there's no need to fear them. It's like a fire drill when you were in grade school. If a real fire took place, you'd know what to do.

Panic attacks can be so terrible, that you can spend the rest of your life trying to avoid triggering another one. That's what most people do, and it only prolongs your suffering. When you have the knowledge and confidence to deal with a panic attack, it doesn't matter if it occurs, because you know what to do.

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Okay. thanks for all the advice. Do you believe its possible though for panic attacks/anxiety to not come back again after enough time passes and i use all the techniques she says? because she refers to her techniques as a cure. I guess I'm just looking for hope. If theres hope that i can really be myself again then i will want to continue more i think

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I know you want to go back to the "good old days", when this awful stuff never happened, and you never even knew about it. But it's part of your memory now, like it or not, and it's just a matter of dealing with it successfully. We can't erase bad memories from our brains. Those memories are part of us now. It's up to us to adapt and grow and get past them.

The process to deal with this is simple, and it definitely can be done. It's a cure in the sense that it won't matter if a jolt of anxiety or panic occurs in the future because you will handle it now. You will lose your "fear of the fear", and stop looking over your shoulder, so to speak. You will simply live again, because you can handle whatever life throws at you.

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Ok, all I can do is at least try to get there. Even with it in my memory, not being afraid of it anymore is better than being afraid. at least ill be stronger because of it. Thank you so much:)

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I been having panic attack’s since my teen Year’s I don’t have panic attack’s no more I just be anxious a lot and afraid of almost everything my safe place is my home I hate am like this because I want to enjoy my life and be happy

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U will get through this

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I don’t know if his would help you, but for me, if I start to get anxiety about a particular situation, I walk my self through the “and the what” scenarios - meaning, what’s the worst that could happen? Ok, AND THEN WHAT? Usually it leads me down a path of realizing that anything “bad” is manageable. For generalized non- specific anxiety attacks I usually call a friend who knows me and my issues and ask them to talk to me - that helps distract me long enough until I start grounding again. Also - WATER. Weirdly simple, but a big glass of water always helps

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What is CBT ?

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy?

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yea! I've heard it helps some people.

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Yes, CBT! Going to therapy tomorrow. Yes, I have to move quickly through recovery or at least obtaining coping tactics.

I go wherever my husband goes. He had a meeting last night with a men's club and I went to see friends house. I chickened out at the last minute but congrats on staying in your apt 😃

Exposure therapy is also good and that's what you did girl, awesome!

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thanks! the night after i got anxiety again and went home to my parents, but last night i stayed in my apartment again and it was fine! baby steps!

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You are encouraging to me. I will share the CBT with you after I see the therapist. I do not want to get my hopes up to high but I am glad I am going.

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Thats great that you are going, I'm proud of you! therapy seems to really help people. I wish i had more time to do that too. Definitely let me know how it goes!

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CBT works great it help me a lot i thought I didn’t need the help no more so I stop now I need to start over

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you should! its not too late to try again!

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U right I really need help because I’m drinking everyday because of anxiety and depression

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drinking actually can worsen anxiety, since i stopped drinking my anxiety has gotten so much better. i know how we can think it will help and how being drunk numbs the pain, but the hangover after only worsens our anxiety and depression.

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Am having withdrawals right now and feel awful

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I smoke too when I drink am able to get out the house and do stuff but the next day my anxiety and depression is through the roof

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Hi, I am not a doctor but I have anxiety and I have dealt with it for 30years. My saving Grace has been distractions with homeschooling 2kids while hubby drove a truck to support us. My point is after the empty nest and the loss of 2family members my anxiety has increased and I don't want to be alone at the house.

I do not drink or smoke, I use to. I get rest at night and if I feel edgy I will take a Benadryl or melatonin 5mg.

It does make a difference to confront this mess anxiety and conquer it.🦋

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