Hi

[Rooster2018]

Hello,

My partner and i lived together for almost 17 years, he left last october, and even if we keep in touch by email or an occasionally phone call i fell very down, i moved to a different house since we split and got a new job, my family are around and they tell me all the time they are here for me, but somedays i just fell horrible....not sure what to do, i dont want to fell like this for ever...

[CazO46]

I'm sorry about the split from your partner after a very long time together. It sounds like you have had a lot of changes in a very short space of time which is likely to add a bit of stress. It's good that you have the love and support of your family but sometimes it can also be good to chat to others about your feelings. I think letting the horrible feelings out and time will help heal the wounds. Take care

[Rooster2018 in reply to CazO46]

Thanks Caz for your kind words.....

[Hopeful-Tinkerbell]

I can imagine how hard that must be for you. I think it’s only natural to go through that period of sadness. I think it is a lot like grief. It hurts. Eventually that hurt will lose its power over you. Perhaps when you get back out there and start dating or just going out. Time may not heal fully your pain but it will lessen its power tremendously. 17 years is a long time. Just try to stay active. Idle minds breed negativity.

[Rooster2018 in reply to Hopeful-Tinkerbell]

Thanks

[Hidden]

I’m so sorry, I can’t imagine the hurt and sadness you feel. When I’m feeling overwhelmed, sad, hurt, confused, I’ve found some comfort in writing down one thing that makes me happy. Just a gentle self reminder of things that are good.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

My therapist told me that writing one or two positive things in your life no matter how difficult will give you an eventual lift. Try it does help.

[Rooster2018 in reply to Hidden]

I will give it a try....thanks

[RNbby]

Very sorry to hear about your split, that is a long time to be with someone. Please try to stay positive although I know that is easier said then done. This is a good place to get your feelings off your chest

[Rooster2018 in reply to RNbby]

Thanks