Made it to work today.

[charley1894]

Been here 16 minutes. not one person in my office has spoken to me. they know i’ve not been well. and not one good morning. not one hi how’re you. just pure ignorance. do you think they feel awkward or are they just not bothered? or is it that they don’t like me?

[miamsandiego2]

Wow, thats exactly how i feel. Dont expect too much from others who dont understand it makes them uncomfortable. No one can really understand what we go through daily. Your doing the bestyou can! Congratz on making it to work!!

[hypercat54]

Hi trust me they feel awkward and don't know what to say to you. I have been there too. The best thing you can do is smile and say hi to them. Or offer to make the tea or something. Once you seem ok they will begin to relax around you a lot more. x

[charley1894 in reply to hypercat54]

i have been doing that.. absolutely nothing from them. i’m the company secretary. (basically pa to them all) and not one of them have asked me to do anything for them. i’ve tried speaking to them and they’re just being short and blunt with me.. or occasionally ignoring what i’m saying.

how am i expected to work in an environment like this whilst not being well?

[MandyBueno]

People nowadays are so cruel, they just can't show empathy for one another. Don't think the problem is you, because the problem is them, they need to seek for love within themselves. I'm glad that you made it to work, just give your best.

[charley1894 in reply to MandyBueno]

i’m trying. i really am. feels like it’s pointless but i’m still giving it a go.

[MandyBueno in reply to charley1894]

Yeah. Do it, Maybe for them is just a normal thing to put on their clothes and go to work, but for us is a difficult task, at least for me it's hard. Anxiety can hinder our lifestyle a lot, but let's try to go against it. I'm wishing you a wonderful day, i hope they realise that getting back to work is a huge deal for you. Stay strong😘

[charley1894 in reply to MandyBueno]

thank you. but i don’t feel like i’ve achieved anything today.

[MandyBueno in reply to charley1894]

Well, you have. Just getting up and leaving your house was a huge achievement, don't belittle that act. You are doing well. Everything starts small and you will notice your progress along the day or the week. Keep yourself positive.

[Nato22]

If they dont care to ask how you are and deliberately ignore you dont let it bother you they are just focused on their on lives and arnt meant to be your friends i go through the same thing i just do my work if they dont acknowlede me i dont acknowledge them either i know it meant seem like bad advice but you should never have to beg for peoples attention if they cant give it to you freely and lovingly then cut them out.all the best

[Hidden]

Hi Charley,

The 10 Commandments of Working in a Hostile Environment by T.D. Jakes has helped me through some pretty rough times in the workplace. At one time I placed the commandments on my desk. I needed to see the list every day. I started working on myself. I am not a religious person even though I grew up in the church.

I will list a few of the commandments here:

Don't expect to be appreciated ( I know this is tough)

Do the job well while remembering the vision

Don't let the environment get inside you (this is most important to me)

Increase your capacity to work with difficult personalities

Where you are is not where you are going

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Blessings!